What would you do if....

[pythongrace]

What would you do or how would you feel if you find out that your significant other went to a gym to work out with someone of the opposite sex(that you never met before) and he/she didn't tell you about it until 2 days after?

[mosi]

I think it would depend on how he told you. If it seemed like he forgot to tell you and didn't think much of it when he did, then you shouldn't worry too much. If he was nervous, or acting out of the ordinary, I'd be really suspicious. Or if he/she was like "omgZ they're amazing!" Then I'd worry too. The next step would be to be upfront with them and let them know your worries. Don't attack though, because he or she will feel like you're not even giving them a chance to defend themselves.

[pythongrace]

I asked him about it and now he's telling it's a male! And this really pissed me off, it make it seem like he's hiding something.

[Lipp]

Its a gym, not a single's bar. Don't jump to the conclusions.

[pythongrace]

it doesn't matter, he was hanging out with another girl, whether it was in a bar, gym, mall, or restaurant

[Lipp]

Then I feel sorry for your guy. I have a good mix of friends from both genders, and if my girlfriend would become upset each time I was walking around with another girl I'd become freakin' annoyed.

But if you want to be paranoid and build a "no girls within 5 yards" enclosure around him, go right ahead.

[Anomaly]

I don't think that it's a big deal, other than the fact that it took him 2 days to tell you. Maybe he just knew that you might over react, or he feels guilty because he has feelings for her. Either way, just tell him how you feel, but don't be too pushy, because nobody likes that. Best of luck to you!

[ecojeanne]

you need to loosen up. my ex used to say things about other girls like they were flirting with him in work and how they all said how great he was blah blah blah, i just laughed at him and that just annoyed him coz he WANTED me to be jealous. if he hangs out with other girls it doesn't mean anything is going on, he might be looking for a reaction from you or he just simply forgot and said it in passing. if he was agitated or nervous when he said it (which i doubt) then yeh maybe he's lying or thinking/doing something wrong

[misombra]

i would think that they liked that person.

[bluesummer]

I would want to know what the point of going to the gym with this person was.

IF he ran into this person at the gym, fine. Specifically making a trip to the gym with them would seem off to me.

[Mish]

I would handcuff them to the bed