please help :(

[helpmeifyoucan]

ok heres the story...(kinda long)

when i was 12 i met this girl who lived down the street. we would hang out all the time. after a while i fell in love with her and she seemed to like me too. while we were never "officialy" bf/gf it was pretty much implied by the way we would act towards each other, but i think its important to state that i was never 100% sure if she liked me like i liked her. anyway, this went on for a couple of years. we would always be holding hands when we were together, talk about traveling the world when we were older and things like that. now, here is where it changes... one day i realized something... shes too good for me. she was beautiful, smart and perfect in nearly everyway, and im nothing special. so if we ever ended up together i believed that it would be bad for her. i would slow her down. i thought that she wouldnt be happy with me and that she could do so much better. so i decided to stop talking to her... i never told her my reason for not talking to her. it has now been 4 years since i last spoke with her but i still think and care about her a lot. a couple of months ago i decided to see if i could find her on myspace just for the hell of it. i found her and learned that she went off to some fancy university has a good life and is engaged... i felt sad but at the same time happy that things were going well for her. a few weeks later out of the blue she sends me a message. she tells me she has been thinking about and misses me. i make small talk and tell her that i cant believe shes engaged... she then sends me this message back "maybe if you were to have talked to me and not ignore me for all eternity..things would be different.lol" this broke my heart because i believe it means that i could of been the one marrying her instead..... anyway she then asks if i want to meet with her to catch up and i said yea. so after 4 years we are meeting again. now here is where i need your help. i dont know what to do lol... i am still in love with her. so, should i try to win her back? tell her how i feel? but then again i remember that this is what i wanted.. shes doing great with her life and is engaged. its not fair to her fiance for me to try to get her back. i had my chance... but maybe she doesnt love him? maybe thats is a reason shes contacting me now after all this time... i dont know... what do u guys think? im so confused

[Chupacabras]

If you were that close, she probably just wants to catch up; don't read anything romantic into it.

She's engaged now: catch up, remember old times, then wish her all the best. You had your chance, don't be a clod and try to rekindle something that you ended.

[Gigabitch]

She's probably just trying to close some doors before starting our in her new life. Don't expect anything more than that.

This is a great opportunity to apologize and make things right, but if she's having cold feet about getting married you shouldn't read anything into that. Don't try to steal her away.

[helpmeifyoucan]

yea i guess you guys are right... honestly i think im just gonna make up some excuse and not meet her. i cant do it

[MVPlaya]

yea i guess you guys are right... honestly i think im just gonna make up some excuse and not meet her. i cant do it

No, it appears you're the type of guy who always finds a cop-out no matter what in life.

Meet her. Talk to her.

If I were you, I'd even tell her you had a huge crush on her back then, she basically hinted at the same thing in return. She can make her own decision, she's apparently the more mature one out of the two of you. Don't go in with any expectations, but meet her. You owe yourself that.

Also: stop being a bitch. This whole "I'm not good enough for this girl who clearly likes me so I'm going to break it off" is probably the single stupidest thing I have ever heard. If you not only don't have the guts to approach a girl, but when you have it handed to you, you disqualify yourself and leave, then you will always be lonely because you **** it up for yourself.

You need to stop with this "I'm not good enough" depressive bullshit and take whats yours in life. Maybe not with this girl, but with the next one.

[helpmeifyoucan]

yea i wont lie i was STUPID to make that mistake. i regret it everyday, but trust me i'm much more confident now. it's just that it will hurt talking to her knowing she engaged/off limits... ill see what happens