Sex Sex and more sex!!

[Raziel067]

Hi.

I am a bit concerned about a relationship I'm in. It seems as though I've met my twin flame. Everything seems to line up perfectly with the twin flame philosophy but there are a few things that bother me. I was wondering what you guys and gals thought.

First, it's sex. I LOVE IT! She loves it! But maybe we're doing it too much? We've been having sex two, three, sometimes five times a day. GOOD SEX. Both of us are VERY satisfied afterwords. I feel I should mention that I run a business from my home so work and other priorities are NOT, I repeat are NOT being neglected. I'll stop in the middle of sex to take a business call. She understands, I'm lucky enough to work out of my home, but I'm still working.

She's expressed a displeasure lately in us having too much sex. Is there a such thing? I'm just out of a relationship where were lucky to have sex once a week, her last relationship was NINE MONTHS without sex (and no, she was pregnant). So hell, we need to make up for lost time, don't you think??

Anyway. One thing I noticed though is, well, it's that time. And I'm a bit sexually frustrated especially considering the highly stressful events of the last two weeks in my personal life. I've noticed a few things starting to surface which make me question this whole "twin flame" thing and make me go "well, maybe it's not what we think it is".


First, the bulletin points in this article are really great and we seem to hit them about 95%.

GRR. It won't let me post a URL

I'm questioning this one thing though...

"You give to the other and never think of receiving in return"

Her attitude has been quite the opposite lately, now that it's "that time". I asked for a little sexual relief and some affection. A little roll around the bed, kissing, hugging, etc. etc. and maybe a little mmm mm mmm. You know, a woman taking care of her man. I've been asking for this for a couple of days now and her words were "I don't want to do that, I'm not getting anything out of it". In other words, she can't have an orgasm right now so she doesn't see the point in giving me one either.

I think it's a bit screwed up. We drove four hours round trip the other day so she could see her son, we took him to Chuck E Cheeses and I spent about $100. I didn't think to myself "why should I do this when I'm not getting anything out of it". I did it because I knew it would make her happy. But tonight, she just blew my mind when I asked for a little play (after she was talking really dirty to me and teasing me) when she replied with the above quote.

I'm trying to see this from all perspectives. Am I being selfish? Am I putting too much into the relationship? Or is it normal for people to give without expecting anything in return? To be frank, with the dozens upon dozens of girls I've dated and the handful I've had a long term relationship with, I've NEVER met one who had the mentality of "why should I do that when I'm getting nothing in return". In fact, most of the girls I've known LOVED making me feel good just as much as I loved making them feel good. I think that's the best way. Two people giving to each other unconditionally for the simple purpose of making the other person feel good. It works out GREAT! If both are on the same level. If not, then the other one simply feels like a fool.

Is it worth leaving her over? Absolutely not. But at the very least I should realize this is most likely not the "twin flame" relationship I thought it was and see it as a relationship between two people, rather than two spirits, and go from there.

Should I feel this is a sobering experience? Or am I totally being selfish? And let me stress, it's NOT about the sex. I would never want to force ANYONE to do ANYTHING. But I shouldn't give something that's not being returned right???

[JohnandZack]

I can't say that I know exactly what you mean. The whole taking the kid out and that kind of stuff since I do not have any children, but anyways, I think there is such a thing as too much sex. Too much of a good thing turns out bad. And five times a day is quite a lot of mm mmmmm mmm~ing.

The way I look at it, just give it a break for a little while and eventually she's been back in your arms once more! I know that I would get bored with it eventually.

And if worst comes to worst, you could always take care of it yourself (which I'm pretty sure you are not willing to do).