Hi im new here, briefly I was with the love of my life for 10 years there was an age gap of 12 years she was 18 and i was 30 the age gap was neva a problem. . after 3 years together, she wanted to get married and have a family but i kept putting things off waiting for the right time, I wanted a nice home and security b4 having kids, in the last 18 months of our relationship I purchased an old farmhouse in need of complete renovation for our family home, i believe this is when are problems started, initially things were great we worked on the property together, but her interest wained and i ended up working on it by myself,our relationship went boring and she started going out more and more with her freinds, and then I found out she had cheated on me. at this i was heart broken and angry and kicked her out. Its my biggest regret that i kicked her out and for the first 3 months I begged her to come back and try again, she wouldnt and now she is with a lad of 23, seven years her junior, having read a few articals on how to get ur ex back the experts say begging ur ex back is the biggest mistake that you can make, so ok initially i have made all the wrong moves,and im pretty sure its to late, its now 15 months since we split altho im over the initial heartbreak and all that goes with it , I still love her and altho I have had dates with other girls ,she is still the only girl i want and love and I would do anything to get her back. I havent contacted her for almost a year now and her birthday is coming up, should i send her a card or a text msg ? and what msg should i send, last year soon after the split I sent flowers and missing you msg I got a thank you and a happy birthday text msg on my birthday , this year after reading the experts views about not begging ur ex back im just thinking of texting a msg saying ''happy birthday ratbag have a gud one, ur ex, always and foreva ged'' can u advise me what u think and any beta suggestions
thanks ged