Help me please... =[ PLEASEEEE

**Manojia** · 21-10-10, 03:41 AM

Soo i think my story can be really common... but i still need great help.
There is this guy i love. he was in my skul in the same class for 7 years and we fought a lot. we are really gud at studiez so u might have an idea about our very competitive relationship. We were never friends until d final year when we started talking on SMS. we came best friends and i don't know how i suddenly fell for him.

i became getting shy in his presence and couldn't make eye contact at all. after school ended, i couldn't take it longer and i told him i love him. he was REALLY good about it. he cares for me a lot. it's just that he loves his cousin who is very cute [i am no beauty]. but he cares for me so much that he talks to me all night long if i tell him i want to. He does not talk to a girll if i tell him not to. We are REALLY frank and talk about EVERYTHING- from daily news to sex. but here comes the big problem. he is ARROGANT. and has got a real big EGO

he NEVER says sorry even if its his mistake. i am always the one apologizing. i think i have lost my self respect for him. and i am hating myself for this

i tried to leave him but i got a nervous breakdown and had to go to the hospital.. i love him so much. and it breaks me from inside when he talks about how cute and beautiful his cousin is. since we are in different colleges, i haven't seen him for almost an year and a half. and even if we do meet in some skool party, i get numb around him. can;t talk, can't look in his eyes. he says he like confident girls. i am realy shy.

so when he talks about his cousin coming at his home i get so upset and i start behaving awkward [unintentionally] and so he gets angry. i don't know what to do

i know he is doing for me what even most girls' boyfriends will not do..but i simply can not bear even to think about him being with some girl

i hurt myself, burn and cut, but that helps only temporarily. also if i don't text him for 2 days, he doesn't even bother to ask if i am upset or not. atlast its always me who apologizes as i can't live without talking to him even for a day

also when he is angry, he doesn't care what he says and how much he hurts me. he just keeps on scolding and being really rude. i don't know how he can be so nice and caring sometimes and so rude and selfish the other times..

it has been going on like this from april 2009. that's mre than a year now. i am 16 n hez 17 so its nnot much about age.
pleaseeeeeeeeeeeeee tell me what to do

i'l go mad if it goes on like this

**Agape** · 21-10-10, 04:23 AM

"he NEVER says sorry even if its his mistake. i am always the one apologizing. i think i have lost my self respect for him. and i am hating myself for this"
"he doesn't even bother to ask if i am upset or not. atlast its always me who apologizes as i can't live without talking to him even for a day"
"he is angry, he doesn't care what he says and how much he hurts me. he just keeps on scolding and being really rude."

How can you love someone who doesn't love you and makes you love yourself less? . . .I suggest you get rid of him and eliminate contact with him.

**WICKED THOUGHTS** · 21-10-10, 04:34 AM

Dude, u know the answer already. You just need to get used to not talking to him. Find another thing to replace that feeling and craving. The more u stay d harder it gets. And stop cutting!!!

**Manojia** · 22-10-10, 03:03 AM

i just cnt leave him... no matter how much i try. i even cry out his name in my sleep. i am just so crazy about him... i diid try to leave him once, but as i told i ended up in hospital. and i got well only when he talked to me..

**Agape** · 22-10-10, 08:06 AM

"i hurt myself, burn and cut, but that helps only temporarily."
"i tried to leave him but i got a nervous breakdown and had to go to the hospital."

Check yourself in or get some sort of medication then - it will take a while but you need to gradually get over him . . . you're emotionally dependent even though he doesn't love you, in fact, by his actions, probably kinda hates you.

**IncognitoSir** · 22-10-10, 08:11 AM

is this for real? I dunno, there's been a few outrageous threads lately and I can't see such a coincidence.

**Manojia** · 22-10-10, 09:48 PM

Originally Posted by Agape

"i hurt myself, burn and cut, but that helps only temporarily."
"i tried to leave him but i got a nervous breakdown and had to go to the hospital."

Check yourself in or get some sort of medication then - it will take a while but you need to gradually get over him . . . you're emotionally dependent even though he doesn't love you, in fact, by his actions, probably kinda hates you.

he doesn't hate me. he really cares for me. but sometimes he gets outrageous

**jonas22** · 23-10-10, 11:20 PM

he is emotionaly immature, egotisitical and insensitive to your feelings.

**Agape** · 24-10-10, 06:42 AM

Originally Posted by Manojia

he doesn't hate me. he really cares for me. but sometimes he gets outrageous

If he cared for you then would you be doing these things? . . . .if he really cared then why would he get outrageous?

**Manojia** · 26-10-10, 03:36 AM

Why wud he waste his nites talking to me if he didnt care? why wud he cut and burn himself whenevr i am hurt? eeewwww i am so confused...=/

**Manojia** · 29-10-10, 03:03 AM

i so don't know what to do

i want to get over him. but i can't. i haven't got any good frends with whom i can talk or hang out. what should i do????????????

**Agape** · 29-10-10, 01:43 PM

if you have problems with self-harm then you could get professional help.

basically, you're like a moth to a flame - you're going to get burned whenever you try to get close to him . . . best you learn to live without him.

And c'mon, you can talk to us

**Manojia** · 29-10-10, 10:25 PM

this is soooooooooooooooo nice of you to say that

but i love him a LOt

**Agape** · 30-10-10, 01:37 PM

Originally Posted by Manojia

this is soooooooooooooooo nice of you to say that

but i love him a LOt

Okay. . . re-read my first post in this thread . . . make 2 lists. 1, how you show you love him. 2, how he shows he loves you. . . then, compare and contrast

**Manojia** · 31-10-10, 02:01 AM

but what do i do? :[ i simply cnt leave him. trust me i have tried :[

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