I have Limerence, i need to get over it, HELP

[limerence25]

I'd never heard of limerence until last week and after reading up about it i realised i have. For those who have never heard of it check out the article on wikipedia

Its basically a very strong crush that doesn't seem to want to leave you alone.

Ok heres my story. I've had very strong feelings for an ex work colleague for about a year now. She has a boyfriend of 3 years. I dont usually even think about girls who are taken but she seemed to strike a chord within me and my feelings began to intensify over the months until eventually its gotten to a stage where my life is consumed with them. To begin with i didn't want to get rid of these emotions because i wanted me and this girl to be together eventually. I was very flirty around her and would to talk to her alot. She did tell me she knew why i was doing all of that and told me that i was wasting my time. She did however show signs of interest towards me on a night out. But she was drunk. I suppose the things she did on that night have kept the fire burning inside of me. I am at a stage where i cant take all of these terrible feelings. I cry most days. I have started to make steps to move on but they dont seem to be working. I have cut all contact with her. I can go a few days and feel ok but then i will get hit suddenly with these feelings. I have read in an arttcle that you should tell the person you have feelings for as soon as possilbe so that it doesn't spiral out of control. And to get a straight answer of negative reciprication from them. Even though she knows how i feel about her i've never actually told her. So i dont know whether i should use the specific words " i care for you" and ask her to give me a straight answer so i can stop living in this fantasy world.

Any help would be much appreciated, thanks

[lm683]

If it is a cognitive problem, you may need to consult a professional since everything you tried seemed not working.