So, there's this man.......

[morettorach]

Seems it always starts that way, huh......? (Or with there's this woman, in the guys' case
Hello! I am a 37 year old woman, have been divorced for about a year and a half. Have dated some, but nothing with any real spark. I am currently working in a convenience store while I am making my way through nursing school. There is this AMAZING man who comes in about every day for gasoline, newspapers, etc. He has absolutely no idea how I feel about him because every time he comes in, I turn into almost a silly school girl. Can't seem to help it!
Actually, he probably thinks I am a complete fool because when he comes in, I get so weak in the knees that I, who am usually a pretty outgoing person, seem to forget how to speak! Not only that, but I also seem to forget where everything is, because I'm pretty sure he also has to wonder why he has to tell me every day where his "Daily Telegraph" is kept when he asks for it. So, again, I'm pretty sure that he thinks I'm just probably really weird. And maybe due to that, I have to say I haven't felt any flirtation at all from him. Honestly, i think how nervous and giddy I become makes him uncomfortable. So, as you can see, I've got it pretty bad for him....
Everyone tells me I should take a chance, others that I work with say he seems like a really nice man, and that he is not married, but it isnt for sure whether he has a girlfriend or not. Though my coworkers who have worked at the convenience store longer than I have say that because he lives close, he has been coming in every day for about three years and if there is a girlfriend, one has never been seen or mentioned. And because I like him so much and wanted to know, I confess that I noticed that on Valentines Day only two days ago he came in alone after he left his work, got his paper and coffee, and headed off in the direction of his house, as if he was spending Valentines alone, too. Also, though I cant talk to him, when he comes in during times that the store is mostly empty, he will sometimes talk with some of my co-workers, just seems like he wants to talk before heading home, as if maybe he is a little lonely. I just find it hard to believe that such a beautiful man is unattached! But, because my co-workers kindly tease me about my "crush" occassionally, it is because they are somewhat shocked that I like him so much. Because though they think he is handsome, nice, etc......I think he is absolutely perfect, with the sweetest personality and the biggest, deepest, most beautiful brown eyes that I have ever seen, So maybe he is only so perfect to me!
As well, I also realize that at 37, this isnt high school and I should get it together. But, I guess I am not good at how to be the approach-er. And I certainly havent felt anything like this since my divorce, and even for a very long time prior to that. So, I could use some advice on how to approach this man. Should I simply flirt with him? Should I just come right out and say it? Or ask him out? Should I begin, as an icebreaker, "you know, there's a reason why I get so silly and can't seem to speak whenever you come around......" And if not that, what should I say? Bear in mind that I only see him at work, and will probably have to see him everyday even if he says "no." which is very possible considering how I have come across. Which is an even bigger topper onto my already present fear of rejection....So, suggestions and advice would be great.

[leoben]

It can be disconcerting to a guy to be suddenly asked out by a girl we had no idea had any interest in us, so your want to build it up at least a little . You don't even really have to flirt, you're in a perfect position to show that you notice him and you're interested. Try to start asking him how his coffee was yesterday or if there was anything interesting in the paper he bought. Be specific with what kind of coffee it was and which paper. If he buys something different one day comment on it. It's a lot easier doing that when you're nervous and generally has the same effect as flirting.

If your conversations are going well after a few weeks of that, scribble your number down on his paper when he's leaving and see if you get a call! Don't worry, as a guy if I wasn't going to call you I would probably start stopping at a different gas station after that to avoid the awkwardness so I doubt you will have to put up with him every day at work if it doesn't happen.

Good luck!