"The ex girlfriend" and the best friend

[FanGirl07]

New to this forum! Hope to chat and share experiences with everyone here..

Right now in a relationship with a guy, we've been friends for over a year but decided to take it to something a little more then just friends 3 months ago. We work together perfectly.. I love spending time with him, I really think I could see myself marrying him someday. Never been more happy. Dream come true to be in "Love" with your best friend. But also a little complicated because you've known how past relationships worked out for each person. And as Friends the topic of the ex's often comes up.. Sometimes can be a little awkward because before we were dating he shared some pretty personal details with me about his ex girlfriend and sometimes continues to do so.. I've told him I'd rather not get into details anymore. He doesn't.. I'm becoming kind of "obsessed" with his ex girlfriend. Worried that maybe I'm not "pleasing" him as much as she might of. .. I know I'm a lot better to him then she ever was.. His family tells me that he seems a lot more relaxed and happy with me as a couple. But I was there It's hard to forget the times I know he had with his ex girlfriend. I know he's not interested in getting back together with her. And he tells me I'm much better Its just that I can't get it out of my mind though sometimes it's really driving me crazy!

Anyway this is my first post I should of made a Introductory post first..

is it normal to be obsessed with a ex girlfriend. is this just silly!

[Sarcasticshoe]

It sounds like you are doing really great at being a good girlfriend. The fact that his family has noticed that he is emotionally/mentally doing better because he is with you, as opposed to the other girl or not with anyone, is excellent... Being insecure about his past is totally normal!!! and so is being obsessed with his ex... To help yourself with your obsession, you need to set rules for yourself. 1. no looking at pictures of her (especially not with him and her) 2. No facebooking her!!!! 3. Don't ask him about her unless you are entirely sure that it is RELEVANT and REQUIRED.
You'll be just fine =) It sounds like your off to a wonderful start with him

[Sarcasticshoe]

It sounds like you are doing really great at being a good girlfriend. The fact that his family has noticed that he is emotionally/mentally doing better because he is with you, as opposed to the other girl or not with anyone, is excellent... Being insecure about his past is totally normal!!! and so is being obsessed with his ex... To help yourself with your obsession, you need to set rules for yourself. 1. no looking at pictures of her (especially not with him and her) 2. No facebooking her!!!! 3. Don't ask him about her unless you are entirely sure that it is RELEVANT and REQUIRED.
You'll be just fine =) It sounds like your off to a wonderful start with him