My bf hanging out with an old friend

[belovedbritt]

Hi all, I am new to this so here is the breakdown on my relationship problem]

been 7 yrs with my bf, met after he graduated from high school. we don't live together

recently started talking with an old female high school friend. She is married and has a kid but her husband is in the army. My bf and this girl have history when they were in high school.

First it started out as getting together to talk about each others life. she was in the army so he goes to her for army supplies since he uses it for hunting. at first i didnt care, but over the months it seems that all he does is text text text her when we are having dinner, relaxing in front of the tv, etc. It has now gotten to a point were he doesnt text me anymore or talk. he is always talking about how they text all the time. also i have notice that before he was open about texting her and now seems to be more guarded as in tries to hide it from me. he has been also fixing her car and helping her out now and then. i have never met her face to face so i dont know her personally, just from what my bf says. yesterday he canceled on me for dinner saying this girl called him because she had to take her son to the er, but needs him to come over. What i dont understand is why doesnt she have family or in-laws go to her place? why does she need my bf to come help her out? it seems that over the months this friendship has now gotten to a point where she is always texting him to see what he is doing, or informing him on her day. I am not typicaly a jealous person, but i feel like i am being placed on the back burner. i asked him what is going on but he just says nothing and then makes me feel bad for asking. i am not accusing him of anything, just wondering why this girl has to "need" him or bug him all the time. I dont know if i should be mad for being ditched or suck it up.

[devonbrown]

It is possible that this other woman is trying to get something started with your husband. That doesn't mean that your husband is necessarily returning that feeling though.

Why don't you suggest to your husband that you would like to meet her. Invite her and her child to dinner or something. Tell him you would like to get to know his friends.

It is great that you are not jealous, but don't let that make you blind either.

Good luck.

[belovedbritt]

Thanks! Thats what I am worried about is what this girls intentions are. He said before I could meet her, but I was iffy because of their previous history. I just am confused!