another person fallin for his friend

[branscorp_90]

well its me fallin for a friend, it all startd with our meeting of each other,we had mutual friends had a few drinks at a friends place,shes super funny really easy to talk to, well as the night progressed we kept talkin and wht not, and well her sense of humor is aloot like mine , we both do improv when we joke around, so i said something(bad memory plus drinks dnt help) and she said jokinly oh u wana marry me?? kidding of course and being a person with tht kindd of humor, i went along with it, now its a joking thing tht im her husband and shes my wife,moving forward, we hang alot pretty close to one another, shes a couple of yrs older thn me(3) and i really like her, im afriad it might have been established tht were friends, but dnt all relationships start with a good friendship??, i barely started liking her and i know tht we would have a good relationship, im a nice guy, but i dnt put up wth crap and tend to try and keep things chill,im also a gentle giant, one of my reasons for being super nice, i do the little things tht girls like ,like leave her notes or suprises on her car before she goes to work,take her coffee when shes having a crappy day at work,things to make her try and see wht i feel without sayin anything, like i said we chill alot mainly chill at her place and bs and watch tv, i want things to go farther but not quite sure how to go about it, i need help

[onlyconfused]

in the past, i wouldnt recommend this, because things might not work out, and it would be hard to go back to friends again...

but, if you have such strong feeling for her, you should go and tell her!! you got 50% to be happy with her, the other 50% of disappointment. but at least you will find out the answer. otherwise, this will be one regret in life for not knowing the answer ... what do you think?

[MaidenMinx]

I hate being told that guys like me. I feel like I've been put on the spot and must determine then and there if I want to be with them.

Ask her out! It's more direct. If you tell her you like her your basically saying "I like you but don't have the balls to do anything about it without some sort of confirmation it's worth my while".

[branscorp_90]

i havent got to see muhch of her the last week or so, and she just went out of town for the weekend, so i planned dinner next week with her,im a very good listener,she likes a guy to defend her,i would in a heart beat but im not aggressive and havent been presented with the opourtunuty to do it,ill be agressive if nessisary, i try not to , i control my anger somwthing i learned in martial arts,im not trying to sound cocky or anything ,im trained in multiple form of fighting so from tht a controlling of anger came to be, thts y im chill and dnt fight or start fights,and another thing she said she doesnt liked to be ask specifically on dates, she said it makes her feel awkward, so i left it at dinner, ive been readin on here to stay the nice guy and then ive heard not to be i just need someone to explain wht exactly i should do, we are pretty close and hang alot and always joke around so comfortablilty isnt a problem, and one more thing haha sorry, i give her massages nothing sexual just when shes tired and beat from the day i wana make her feel less stressed ,she tells me its weird how she lets me masage her, she said she usally never let anyone do tht but with me its ok,hellllp wht can i capitalize on? if any

[branscorp_90]

and another thing just the other day before she left for the weekend, she had me visit her at work, a co worker came up to pur table and started flirting with her,hes a natural flirt, he has a gf , and i knew all tht and i fould my self getting quiet and not talkin much just feeling weird, when we walked to her car the darn guy came along too!!, he went to his car and she walk with me to hers and i said bye, she asked if something was rong i said no i just feel weird,she called me a minute later askin wht was wrong i said nothing jut felt weird she asked if she did something wrong,i said no , tht i would tell her if she did,and tht even if she did i couldnt be mad at her, i didnt know tht this feeling was jealousy, i never get this way, i rememebr finding my self lookin at tht dude every so often, and it wasnt nice, i just didnt realize wht was going on till i thought about it later,wht to do now

[branscorp_90]

help?????????