why won't he just leave me be? it's hard enough as it is!

[isitme?]

I finished with my ex nearly 3 weeks ago. It hurt, still does but i was being mentally abused. I told him not to contact me (read my previous threads) on saturday he texted me and then again last night. Here's the text.

'well i have come home pissed so i guess its ok to tell you i miss you. I think you have issues that will bring you problems in life but i do hope you love agian, as for me i'm afraid the world is rotten so love has no part in what i see. I miss your friendship and studying with you but i know that will pass as much as the thought of you with a man tears me asunder i really hope you get what you desire. Please tell your daughter about me in time. Sorry i am drunk"

weird thing is he hardly ever drinks! and i lay in bed worrying about his state of mind. He has no right to keep texting me, i've deleted his number but my network can't block the number. I can't change my number for a numerous amount of reasons.

Is he just playing with my head?Does he love me? It sounds like he's really angry at me and has quite blatantly disrespected my wishes not to contact me.

Whats he playing at? My heart can't turn off so i do care, but have to care for my child and me more this time.

[DarkHelmet82]

hes trying to make you feel bad.. and he probably wasnt drunk... the sentences are too well thought out for a drunk.

[isitme?]

yes, that thought had crossed my mind. Drunk my ass perhaps?

[DarkHelmet82]

you can text him back and say that you just got this phone number and dont know who he is.. maybe he will belive you, and think you changed it.

[Purrzzzzzz]

'you can text him back and say that you just got this phone number and dont know who he is.. maybe he will belive you, and think you changed it.'.. great idea, you might start off with 'this is john'..

[DarkHelmet82]

change your voicemail to a generic one... also dont respond or answer to any weird phone numbers or blocked numbers... he could be using a number anonymizer or blocking it.

[DarkHelmet82]

Maybe change your number.

she said she couldnt.

[isitme?]

yeah, i can't change my number, and i'm serious about that. There are a number of reasons why i can't........all too boring to detail. Friday night comes and i can't help thinking of him. bugger! bugger! bugger! argh!

[BackUpOrGetStng]

Have you been responding to him?

[isitme?]

nope, i've not responded to him xx

[BackUpOrGetStng]

Just keep it up then.

[Mathias]

nope, i've not responded to him xx

Can you block his number? Go to your cell phone's website and look up information.

[Hulibuli]

If you just keep ignoring him for a while, he will get the message. If he's not an total idiot (read: male), that is.

[FixBrokeWindmil]

You are the best one to judge if he loves you. The text is about him missing the comfort of having you around, the fear of the change that is taking place in his life and grief. He is loosing something(one) and that is grief. Anger is part of grieving. In a situation like this it is also easier to be angry than it is to look at your own faults or realize that it is really over. Being angry is easy. If you have really decided that it is over, you are doing good to not respond to him, now take it one step further and don't read his texts. Delete them as you see his name. It is hard to do, it takes pain and discipline, but doing that will both help you and him recover faster. Was he drunk or not drunk when he text'd you is just not the subject to think about, it does not matter. I know that you still care for him, that is natural, but you have to tell yourself that your life surrounds one pointed focus now and that is to heal from him, communicating with him or even reading his text just makes you think about him more.
Good Luck to you,

[Petit Papillon]

I tell you what will work. IGNORE HIM. It's like feeding the troll. As long as he gets an attention from you, he will send you another messages. Just stop responding to them. He will send few messages,but eventually he'll stop. True story.