Shy Guy Needs Advice

[SonnyBlack]

Hello Everybody,

This is my problem.....

At work there is this attractive female, that has recently caught my eye, she has worked there awhile, but i have only just taken an interest in her. With this female my interests are not sexual, i can't really explain why, im just attracted to her for some reason, anyway when i pass her or if were around each other she never seems to look at me, even when she does look at me, she never seems to smile at me, i dont know too much about her, only that she is polish, and has a child, plus they all say she is single, i ask my work friends advice, they say ask her out, but this is where i have a real problem, i cant seem to approach women and strike up conversation, i feel like an idiot, i want to get to know her, but i dont know how to go about it, i fear rejection and lack confidence in the woman area. I dont feel attractive and that women dont like me for that, this is why i have a problem approaching females. I dont want to blow my chances before they have even started. I know one guy at work went out on a date with her, but he did'nt want anything to do with her, because she had a child, personally i dont mind she has a child. Can anybody share any advice on this for me??

Best Regards

Sonny

[IKnowEverything]

Get some ****ing balls and ask her out.

[Screenplay]

Heh, about two months ago I was in your exact same situation. I can't really form a coherent thought as to the whole approach, but heres my advice. Looks are not the biggest thing in the world, and I would probably be correct in assuming you, like myself, are pretty average-looking guys in the broader spectrum of things. Looks only carry a person for a few seconds, the real key thing Ive found is a sense of humor and a bit of charm. Also, this sounds easy and, well, it is in the right frame of mind but simply go up to her and talk to her. The first time you talk to her you aren't asking her out, you're simply one person who wants to get to know another, and realizing this might make the whole thing a bit easier. As for breaking the ice, use your enviroment to your advantage, whether it be about work or asking about the weather, whatever. Id stay away from anything cheesy or goofy given that A) Youre gonna be at work and B) They tend to give a bad impression sometimes. Personally I got lucky, this woman Im attracted to (And currently in a conundrum with :/ ) was having copier machine trouble; helped her fix it and then asked her if she was a temp like I was to break the ice. Conversation gets going and bam, you now know each other and can build from there.

In essence, be yourself. If you have a good sense of humor or some charm to you dont be afraid to use it, but dont overdo it either. Just catch her when shes not busy and go for it.

[Junket]

Don't strike up conversation, just go up to her and say, go out with me...NOW.

[daehehtnidekcuF]

Get some ****ing balls and ask her out.

Unassailable advice from a future marriage counselor

[SonnyBlack]

LOL, ok thanks for the straight talking advice there, much appreciated, i guess from what all of you have said theres only one way to tackle this, and thats head on.

Thank you once again

Regards

Sonny

[Aveline_Rei]

If you still having problems get up the nerve to go directly, try finding out something that she likes. Then it's slightly easier to start to talk to her about it because it's something she already open to which may help if you know a little something about it too. Either way you go, Good Luck.

[Nameless18]

Why not ask her out in a group date? Get to know her better and find out if shes interested in you at all or not.

[prelude01]

Try a simple thing like going for coffee or something. From what I gather from talking with a lot of girls confidence is the key. So if you just talk story with her and ask her out on a date straight up its better than wondering.

[Cybog]

GOD you people are insane. Just walk up to her and talk to her. Jesus H. Christ you 2 work together! There has to be SOMETHING you could talk to her about.

Im ripping my eyeballs out here. What in god's name are you afraid of? I've said it a million times before. Simply talking to someone isn't going to get you "rejected" in the Real World of grown-ups.

What are you afraid of? All of these sad pathetic lives being swept away by people who are so chicken shit to simply go up, and say some shit. It doesn't matter what. Just start talking!