balancing nice guy/*******

[uptownboy]

I've been deeply thinking about this one for a while.

Face it. Nice guys usually lose, and the only woman that will tell you otherwise are either fat, possessive, neurotic, or a combonation of all the above.

I've studied this, informally of course and here's my theory:

You have to combine a little bit of a$$hole with a little bit of nice guy.

If your too nice, what happens?:

She thinks your a sweetie, calls you everyday for a while and then the 'honeymoon' is over with. Pretty soon she stops calling everyday to see how you're doing, stops calling you after the bars to tell you she's home. (she's probably at a home, just not hers or yours)

And all this because you were too nice and your respectec her in every possible way.

If you're a complete a$$hole:

You say stupid shit and are usually an a$$hole about all the wrong things. That's the key right there, you have to be an a$$hole about the right things.

For example, you wouldn't want to be a dick when she's out late, but you would want to be a prick if she asked for a drink of your soda. "can I have a drink of that", "**** you, get your own, I don't want your backwash!" See? Simple a$$hole.

Here's probably my most important point: Don't ever be an a$$hole when you're angry. The a$$hole in you should come out when you're calm and out of the blue, not when you're pissed at her for something. If you're pissed, the balancing act of nice guy/a$$hole is broken.

Then there's the nice guy side of you. What's too much? The idea here isto let her know that you care, you love her, and that she can trust you, without being a pushover.

Don't do every little thing she asks, then she'll think she owns you, and woman would rather be dominated, unless of course, they're neurotic.

These are just my thoughts, take what you will, and in no way to I think that I'm 100% right, nor is it an accurate representation of our feminine counter parts.

[uptownboy]

the ******** is a$$hole

[Screenplay]

The reasoning behind women liking *******s in my opinion is that *******s are usually very sure of themselves and confident. My stance on it is that women like nice guys that arent afraid to tell things like it is and arent meek or reserved.

[squirrley]

As a young woman here, speaking for myself, I prefer Mr. Nice Guys. No assholes thank you. I would love to find a Mr. Nice Guy. He doesnt have to have ******* tendencies either, some confidence is nice, but not over dominary. I would love the attention from a Mr. Nice Guy, theyre caring, loving, adoiring, sweet, sincere, and yet has a backbone. Knows what he TRULY wants without games. I loathe games. You can bet there are some women who want the bad boy traits, but for me, being a little older and wiser now, nah, Im ready to be treated with some respect.

[sfalexi]

Rather than being an *******, I say don't be a pu$$y-whipped bicth. There's no reason to be an a-hole, but at the same token, don't be a pushover.

It is a thing of confidence. I remmeber some girl I wasn't even seeing asked me to tie her shoe. WTF is that?! I said, "How about you tie MY shoe, and while you're down there you do me another favor . . ." with a grin on my face. THat's not an ******* thing to say, but I wasn't a bicth and I didn't say, "Sure thing."

Just don't be a pushover.

Alexi

[squirrley]

NOW her asking you to tie her shoes, thats just being a *****. WRONG! I dont ask for much, or at least I dont think I do, just some respect, and show me you care. I dont need much in my life, but it sure would be nice to be with someone who shares what I want in a relationship. Which is understanding, compassion, trust, communication, and again, just dont be an *******. Theres no need for that, and I agree Alexi, dont be a pushover, I dont need someone to wipe my ass or tie my shoes, just be there.

Mr. Nice Guys arent pushover's, theyre just not appreciated, thats the thing, I dont think when a gal gets with one of them, they dont get appreciated. They get shit on, and thats sad for the rest of us who want to be with them, they get burned time and time and again, and when someone like me comes along...they're afraid of getting hurt.

[uptownboy]

Seems like the shitty girls are the easier ones to find...anyone here ever went to church and found a little hottie sitting there are by herself?

[IKnowEverything]

Seems like the shitty girls are the easier ones to find...anyone here ever went to church and found a little hottie sitting there are by herself?

Church girls are prude ****ing wastelands of life.

[sfalexi]

Church girls are prude ****ing wastelands of life.

I more or less agree, although the "nice guy" in me probably would have worded it differently.

[prelude01]

This is acutally a mix of both attitudes. The nice guy to be the gentleman to girl but, yet enough confidence to stand his ground when need be in other wards be real in some situations. One matto that I've learned my self. If you think they didn't know or notice don't worry they know. Just something to think about.

[BlurryEyes]

I've been deeply thinking about this one for a while.

Face it. Nice guys usually lose, and the only woman that will tell you otherwise are either fat, possessive, neurotic, or a combonation of all the above.

I've studied this, informally of course and here's my theory:

You have to combine a little bit of a$$hole with a little bit of nice guy.

If your too nice, what happens?:

She thinks your a sweetie, calls you everyday for a while and then the 'honeymoon' is over with. Pretty soon she stops calling everyday to see how you're doing, stops calling you after the bars to tell you she's home. (she's probably at a home, just not hers or yours)

And all this because you were too nice and your respectec her in every possible way.

If you're a complete a$$hole:

You say stupid shit and are usually an a$$hole about all the wrong things. That's the key right there, you have to be an a$$hole about the right things.

For example, you wouldn't want to be a dick when she's out late, but you would want to be a prick if she asked for a drink of your soda. "can I have a drink of that", "**** you, get your own, I don't want your backwash!" See? Simple a$$hole.

Here's probably my most important point: Don't ever be an a$$hole when you're angry. The a$$hole in you should come out when you're calm and out of the blue, not when you're pissed at her for something. If you're pissed, the balancing act of nice guy/a$$hole is broken.

Then there's the nice guy side of you. What's too much? The idea here isto let her know that you care, you love her, and that she can trust you, without being a pushover.

Don't do every little thing she asks, then she'll think she owns you, and woman would rather be dominated, unless of course, they're neurotic.

These are just my thoughts, take what you will, and in no way to I think that I'm 100% right, nor is it an accurate representation of our feminine counter parts.

hahahaha...i like your opinion..
its open my eyes dude....thanks...hahahaha....

[King Zarathu]

did you just now figure this shit out? u knew this before.. right??

[misombra]

The reasoning behind women liking *******s in my opinion is that *******s are usually very sure of themselves and confident. My stance on it is that women like nice guys that arent afraid to tell things like it is and arent meek or reserved.

that's true.

i can't handle people who are too nice.