Long term relationship abruptly stops - PLEEEEASE HELP!

[privatelady50]

Guys, I need the truth about what is going on;

I met a guy who seemed to be amazing! We were compatible in every way, were attracted to each other - physically, emotionally, spiritually, the whole nine. We were in a committed relationship for 6 years. The reason it went for 6 years without moving to marriage is because we had both been married (once for me, twice for him), and we wanted to take it slow and be sure that we were both ready to take that next step. We lived an hour apart, but he was ALWAYS with me wanting to pamper me, help around the house, yard work, sex was amaaaaaazing, and everything was wonderful. Throughout the relationship, we both shared our issues from past relationships and he had a LOT of unresolved issues from his childhood as well as his past. He opened up to me about things he's never shared with ANYONE else. He had never been able to sustain a relationship that lasted beyond 2 years. I was his longest because I didn't judge him and wanted to be there for him instead of bolting once his issues surfaced (women in his past bolted once they saw the real him). Soooooo four years into the relationship, he started showing signs of depression and I stuck with him in spite of his moodinesss, withdrawal and distance. I helped him with doctor visits, therapy, etc. We are both in our upper 40's, so we discovered (finnnnally) that he was suffering from male menopause and low testosterone.

The doctor started him on several remedies to balance his testosterone and depression symptoms. In the meantime, we decided that we would keep the friendship because I didn't want him to feel pressure about the intimacy. To make long story short, the hormone therapy seemed to work and he started improving......he told me he wanted to stay connected while he worked his way out of this depression, but recently he has stopped all communication and is now seeing someone else. I'm not angry about it, but what I dont understand is why he wont talk to me. If I text to say how are you doing? I hope you're doing well and life is good for you........he won't respond. I don't get it ..... what is going on???? Why does he not want to talk to me, and why can't he just say he's in a relationship? Is this a rebound thing because he feels guilty that he couldn't be what he thought I deserved? On several occasions, he told me he felt I was too good for him and he didn't deserve me.. so I dont know if that was an excuse or the truth. I love him,, and I DO want to make it work if that's what he wants. I have not tried to call or communicate anymore because maybe he never loved me and freedom is what he wants or maybe this new woman is what he wants. Or I dont know if he's in a rebound relationship or what.

I know this is complicated, but if ANYONE can help, I would greatly appreciate it!!!!!!!!!

[smackie9]

Sorry but you got duped. His depression was an issue sure but it's not enough of an excuse for what went on here. He used you, he wanted out long before he started to have issues. You see your perception of what was there is totally different from his. This relationship wasn't perfect to him the way you saw it. If he was that emotionally connected to you he wouldn't be off with someone else. That is why he hides from you....so you don't find out the truth and go set his car on fire. He knows what he did is wrong....he's hoping you will just go away and forget about him. What a douche.