shuld i keep waiting or end the friendshiP.??

[stuck]

i liked this girl for 6 months now, but she has a boyfriend. the story is very complicated so imma just cut top the chase. I like her, she likes me. she has a boyfriend. she made a mistake (a big mistake). now she can't leave him for that mistake. the both of us would talk day in and day out. she probably texts me more than she texts her bf and all ive been doing so far was spending time wif her the most i can. i asked her if we can ever be together. she culdnt tell the future. she will either be my gf or she never happened in my life.
wait? or end the friendship? im like suffering everytime i see the both of them plz advice thank u

[miffy]

Cut your losses and run. It's obvious you'll always come 2nd, and even if she's into you even more than her BF, there's a reason she's not leaving him. Besides the fact that it is never a good start to a relationship when one or both partners had to break off a previous one to dive into another. Break off contact and focus on other parts in your life and try to move on. If she breaks it off with him and tries to reestablish contact with you later on, you can still consider it then. But you can't hope for that and certainly shouldn't be waiting around for her. Protect yourself and stop suffering over someone you obviously can't have.

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the problem is i cant move on and even if i do, my memories with arent going away
like if i start a relationship wif someone else shes gonna still be in my mind and that may be a problem :/
i feel stuk as F@#k,... like i want her to be the first girl i date and then move on from there

[VincenzoG91]

If you are romantically interested in her, then it isn't really a friendship. My friends call this Standard Vulture Position. You're just waiting around to see if her current relationship will drop dead, so you can swoop in for the remains. It's creepy and disrespectful to both you and her. If she really, truly wanted to be in a relationship with you, she would break up with the other guy. But that isn't happening, and her "mistake" excuse is b-s. She sees you as second choice (if that) compared to her boyfriend, and she is only keeping you around as a spare tire. Might as well climb in the truck of her car and lay there next to the tire iron. Don't be a vulture or a spare tire, be an assertive human being. Tell her what you want: a romantic relationship with her. If you can't have that, be honest with yourself and with her stop being her fake friend. Move on and look for somebody who is available and interested in you, and doesn't see you as second-best or worse.

Yes, you will have memories of her. And those memories will fade as time goes by, once you move on. I had some hopeless crushes when I was a teenager and even in my early 20s. To be honest, I remember all their names and faces pretty well. But the feelings aren't there, because I moved on and had real dates and real relationships with women who chose me. And those are stronger memories than the ones of the women I didn't get to date.

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okay, i think i can move on if someone can tell me wut this means after wut im about to explain
we had a long talk about the situation and she said she indeed had feelings for me throughout the times ive spent with her. she said how she will care for every second of her life for me if she had to. she really did want to be with me, but her boyfriend forgived her for the mistake she made. she thought the amount of love he had for her was so much that he culd forgive her for wut she had done (cheat) and she realized she culdnt leave him for the tiny mistakes he makes. during the talk she truthfully said that if she was single i was the guy who she wuld of chosen. i told her we culd be friends that night and she was alrite wif that. now to get to the point... shes having financial issues with ppl and asked if i culd help chip in some money for her. i replied saying how i spent the money on her over the past 6 months and told her im broke. she then said "im sorry for wasting your time and money" does dis mean i was actually a spare tire and toy just for her to play wif all these 6 months? if so im rdy to end the friendship

[miffy]

Dude, RUN. Stop all contact with her and move on. It was bad enough before, but asking for money? Stop letting her take advantage and run all over you.

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if only i culd say the entire story... i dink u wuld reconsider about that reply
shuld explain everything

[tmc92ic]

Respect for not forcing yourself on her knowing she has a boyfriend. Respect.

You might get with her at one point. She will be vounarable one day, maybe because she got into a fight with her boyfriend, and she will turn to you.

However it's not what you want. You seem to want a relationship and more maybe. You won't get this. It will end ugly, worse than just leaving now, if you don't run now.

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i respect that, ive known her for two years, but we started getting close the last 6 months.
she understands now that i hav no money left and i didnt talk to her for a day, and she says to me "are you okay"
like in my head i know she cares for me, but like if i just leave now and she needs someone to talk to i just feel bad for not being there. and she actually did turn to me at 3am with a phone call when they had a fight that one nite.
UGH FML shuld just turn gay ffs

[miffy]

If you keep getting entangled with her emotionally while she doesn't actually want to end her current relationship and start with you, you'll only get hurt. If she is that close to you and concerned about your well-being, talk to her about it. Tell her that you are hurting, tell her the truth. And if she can't be with you, then ask to be left alone for a while to clear your head. A friendship might still be possible after you've gotten some distance from the issue.