is he taking it slow, or is he not interested? so confused!

[kittygoesrawr]

so about 3 or 4 months ago i met this guy and we clicked from the start. the first time we hung out, we were drinking. i was pretty sober, but i think he was more drunk than me or my friend who was there. the guy was really curious as to what my story was, what i liked to do, blah blah blah. he basically seemed pretty interested in me. he would hug me a lot and put his arm around me. when we went outside, he even gave me his jacket cuz it was cold! (aww's) my friend that was with us said that it seemed like he was way into me! and i agreed. then i hung out with him again and he acted really normal and not at ALL how he was acting that first night we hung out. and i know obviously part of it was cuz he was sober, but still. we hang out usually once a week now, but i usually have to start the conversation and ask him if he wants to hang out. but when we are done hanging out, he always tells me that we need to see each other again really soon! hes bought me dinner at nicer restaurants and we never have a moment of silence when we are together. we really enjoy hanging out and he has told me that before, over and over again. i just dont know if this is going anywhere? i mean, he is honestly the nicest guy ive ever met and he is really sincere and sweet, but he is really genuine with everyone and i dont know if he is treating me special or if im just another friend. im all for things getting taken slowly, but i dont want to be barking up the wrong tree, you know? please help me sort this over-analytical thoughts out!

[smackie9]

He likes you but isn't getting the right signals from you. Are you taking initiative to touch him, grab his hand, lean in and squeeze his arm, flirt, say things like how cute he is? Some guys are just too insecure and start to over analyze everything that they get too nervous and second guess themselves. You like this guy? Then it's time to really show it.

[American Breaky]

I agree. As a guy, sometimes we're pretty dense and don't really know whether a girl is into us or just being friendly. If he's a very 'proper' guy, he may be afraid of coming off sleazy by touching you. When you first met, you guys were in bar/club and the rules of what is acceptable conduct is different in those places. In subsequent encounters you were out at nice restaurants and people don't go grabbing other people at nice restaurants right? Does he walk you to your door? Maybe the next time you guys go out, if he does walk you to your door, you could lean in and give him a little kiss. I don't think that's putting yourself waay out there or anything.

[InYourFACE]

Maybe you should be mre communicative!

instead of lean back.

Like ask him right away, what is going on between you and him, what kind of feelings he have and stuff.

Dont ask us, ask him!