Sensitive Issue ... pls help!

[lighters]

Hi everyone!! I'm new here, this is my first post

I have a sensitive issue that can’t really discuss with anyone. I’m thinking of proposing to my gf, but I don’t know how to tell her mom. We’ve been together three years.

Her mom has been over to my folks once, and my mom and her have met up for dinner. I have dinner with my gf’s mom once a month or so, but I’m very nervous each time. She seems like a nice lady, very kind. We get along fine, but there is still distance. We don’t hug or crack jokes (on a regular basis) nor share beers.

I’m not the most confident guy. I’m just an ordinary man, and I have a regular full-time job and I go to night school at a local college. I’m not rich, nor highly-educated, nor a war hero.

Should I tell her mom we plan to get married? Do I need to ask for permission? I’m terrified. I’m happy just proposing to my gf, but I feel like I should say something to her mom, just out of respect, and also because I feel like it’s the right thing to do, even though I know love is between two people.

I’ve asked my folks about this and they’ve agreed I should probably say something and ask her mom for permission.
I’ve asked my gf if I need to talk to her mom. My gf is pretty relaxed, she says I can say something if I want to. She doesn’t really know either. She thinks that’s my piece and my decision. She’s more interested in the dress she’s gonna wear and the jewelry she will pick. So it’s up to me now.

I find myself very nervous and this is keeping me up at night. I’m very excited, but I don’t know if I should say something, and what I should say! Any advice?

thanks!

[iamaninnocentma]

Where do you live? 1940? Strap a pair on and just get on with it. No need to ask a birds mother, but you have kinda ****ed the surprise if you have already spoken to your bird about it.

You better hurry up an get a ring on this birds finger before she realises what a canadian you are and leaves you for a real man.

[bulrush]

If you tell her mom, your gf will find out. Women are good at picking up on subtle body language and your gf will know right away that her mom is excited about something. If you don't want it to be a true surprise, then go ahead and tell her mom.