Is it truly love, or is it something else?

[dnbElectrixx]

We aren't together, but I've been good friends with someone I've known since 1st grade (became friends starting September of this year), and I have noticed I developed feelings for her. Due to me being in middle school (grade 8), people say it's not love, and just lust. I can usually tell if it's lust, because that feeling passes over in about a month, but she just has a different "spark" than other people I know.

We've been becoming closer friends, but I remain to keep these feelings secret until she developes feelings for me.

So, is it truly love, or is it lust still?

**Now that it's the weekend, I catch myself thinking about her and she is invloved in my dreams.

[RipVanWinkleX]

8th grade huh? 13 years old I am guessing? Either way, you are still young. Love is different for everyone. Years from now you might feel that it was just a crush; but no one can really tell you it is or is not. But right now you have no experience. (Not trying to be mean )

Right now your hormones are going crazy. You are going to have to tame those hormones, other wise you are going to do stupid things. Everyone goes though this. Hell, I felt like I was in love in with a lot of girls in middle-school, but I was always to shy to act.

I guess, tell her how you feel. She may not have your feelings for you. But for gods sake don't act to fast. Be friends for a couple of years first before dating.

This is just a part of growing up... good luck.

[dnbElectrixx]

Yes, I am 13, and at first, I actually could not do anything around her. I stuttered when speaking to her, I couldn't maintain eye contact (I'd be looking at a table near her), and I was all shaky. Now, I can actually maintain contact and have normal conversations.

Currently, I will refuse to tell her. If I tell her this early and get rejected or something along those lines, it will most likely change my attitude about love for a very, very, long time.

She isn't the prettiest out of every single one, but she is the only one who actually had me like them.
There is one problem, however. I don't know anything about her. We're friends, make jokes, etc, but I don't know any of her interests, and I could never get myself to ask those questions.

[RipVanWinkleX]

Ah, I was under the impression you two were good friends. Well, take it slow. Like VARY slow. Ask about her interests and talk a little about yours. Just... omg I can't believe I am saying this >.< Play with her like kids. Just be a kids and have fun. lovey dovy stuff can come much later. Go out bicycling or something. It's up to you if you want to tell her that she is cute, but she may already know because of you being so scared

I am so glad I am out of the teen years lol

[dnbElectrixx]

Yeah, I was planning to take it rather slowly, and another problem is, I'm not one of those people who go places often. It averages 30 degrees (fahrenheit) here, so no outdoor activities. I don't know how most kids play, since I spend most of my time either completing homework, writing essays (thanks for reminding me, forgot I have one due Thursday), etc.

This would be much easier to communicate if she had a cellphone, or even a Facebook, so I only see her during school hours.

[IndiReloaded]

Have you asked her on a date yes? Sorry if I missed this. It sounds to me you really like her. Natural thing for your age.

[dnbElectrixx]

I haven't.

[IndiReloaded]

Go take her for a milkshake on your skateboard.

[dnbElectrixx]

Don't own a skateboard... wait, what? There are milkshake stands? Awesome!