What would you do??

[sbinlove]

I have been dating a man for about 3 months now. I met him online and everything is good. We spend almost every day together, and when we are not together he texts and calls a lot to say really sweet things. He talks about me to his friends and family a lot. We have already gone on a trip together and talk about plans together. He has begun to introduce me to his friends and wants me to meet his family. I am meeting his Dad at the end of the month and he has asked me on a trip with his Brothers and Sisters. Nice right?? except..There is only one problem. He still has his online profile up and he still goes on pretty regularly. About 6 weeks after we met I got tired of getting all of the email online and had a couple of stalkers so I decided to hide my profile until I see where this relationship goes. I mentioned this to him and he kind of acted like he didn't even hear what I said. So like an idiot I decided to go on the site about a week later just to see if he had also hidden his profile. Well he not only hadn't hidden it but he was online at that very moment. I mentioned to him that I was having a hard time with online dating because normally you would never know if someone is dating other people or not and how disturbing it is to have it right in your face. He was so touched by the fact that I even cared and opened up his profile to show me that he has not had communication with anyone else since we met.

So fast forward antoher month and I have been trying to remain cool and forget about the online thing so it doesn't effect our "fun" I am fairly sure that he is not dating anyone else. Not yet anyway. But...after just spending the whole weekend together, I checked to see if he went online and he did pretty much the minute I walked out the door. He then proceeded to text me all night long right after. It was all I could do not to completely ignore him, because I was so mad at him. Lol. I keep reminding myself that he really isn't doing anything wrong since we have not had the "exclusivity talk". Now my dilemma...I am going out of town for business and some pleasure too for almost 3 weeks and I am really worried about if he will be dating others while I'm gone. I'm sure he is thinking about what I will be doing too. My question is, should I have the exclusivity talk with him before I go or should I just be silent and let him out there to date and experiment all around if he wants to for the 3 weeks and hope that he realizes that I am the only one he wants to see because he misses me so much and have the talk when I get back? What would you do?

[Lisalost]

I would hold off on the exclusivity talk, personally. That could possibly rush things. I think the time apart will do you some good, and then you'll have somewhat of a fresh start when you return. He'll have some time to miss you and really think about what he wants, and often distancing yourself from a situation can give you clarity. Good luck

[BackUpOrGetStng]

Either break up with him, start seeing other people, or enjoy what you've got and quit bitching.

[searock]

I think you should have the exclusivity talk. It's what you want, so you should communicate it to him. It has been 3 months after all.

[adalinaabella]

You have to clear all the situation and find a solution for you relation. If it is still not clear just leave for some time. Distance always increases love. I am sure after this you guys will be again near to each other.

[sbinlove]

Thanks for all the great advice! Well, I told him that I didn't want to forget to take my camera and he said make sure I get rid of all the evidence before I came home so even though he is joking I think he is a little worried about what I'm going to do to also. I told him that he was the one that was probably going to go on a bunch of internet dates while I was gone. He said no don't worry about that. Then I jokingly told him that I wanted him to go on as many dates as he could while I was gone so that he will get it out of his system and he can decide if he wants to be with anyone else because when I got back I was going to "Lock his shit down". He started laughing hysterically and said oh you are are you? I actually think that he loved that I said that because he got into a very good mood after that and was telling me how much he was going to miss me and calling me and texting me all day since I left his house. I think Men just want to know they can have the freedom sometimes but if you actually give it to them they find that they don't even want it. I truly do not care if he goes out with 10 girls while I'm gone if that's what it takes for him to be sure what he wants. I would rather find out early that he does'nt want anything serious that later on when I really fall for him.