Getting back with my Ex boyfriend

[ComedyError]

Hi I split up with my boyfriend (who I love) in September. Since then we have not spoken except in November when I said I missed him and lets see a movie again. He said yes then changed his mind and we never met. So last Wednesday after speaking on Facebook about how much we both miss each other (he said he thinks about met and cries sometimes) we met. For me after 6 months of not seeing him I felt it. There was something special. He is very, very quiet doesn't do a lot. Very hard almost impossible to read. However I just love him. We held hands, hugged. When I got back home he messaged me saying when we said goodbye he really wanted to kiss me like old times. (He didn't ufnortunately). So I tried calling him a few times (he has never liked speaking on the phone) I messaged him and said Hi...I said let's meet up again. He said we could but didn't know what we could do?! Then he said let's talk later. That is the last contact I have had with him.

What is happening? Does he still really love me? How can I win him back? I think he wants me to really plan something (I live in London) and tell him to come...What can I do that will be romantic?

[basilandthyme]

Have the issues which caused you to breakup been resolved? Will the fact that you can't read him be an ongoing problem?

[ComedyError]

He never would give me a real reason why we broke up...He said it was bad sex...He just felt we are very different people and he couldn't see us moving in together, living our lives...he wanted me to change, be healthier and he couldn't see me doing that.

I would move on but I know we both love each other.

What do you think is going on inside his head? He wants to meet sends a lovely sweet message says he wanted to kiss me goodbye...But is now reluctant to meet again I guess.

[ComedyError]

anyone care to reply?

[basilandthyme]

I wouldn't give him the time of day unless he could assure you that all those old issuse are no longer a problem.

[pcmaster]

If you want to win him back than try ringing his doorbell and when he opens he sees you in a long coat that is open revealing you naked in nothing more than hot underwear. Ofcourse he couldnt let you stay outside like that and if he still dont want anything serious than say that you are pregrant.(trust me - seen this on internet).

Seriously you wanted to see him He said we could but didn't know what we could do?! And what did you answered? Because thats when you could have some suggestions about what to do on a date. Cause someone have to know. If you like him you should know what you want.
For example i would like to know what my girl want and than do everything to make her happy. Actually just by coming over to my place with no warning would be a pleasant surprise, even more pleasant if a girl had a real nice smile on her face. Cause if you going out of your way just to see him that means something.

[ashley89]

He never would give me a real reason why we broke up...He said it was bad sex...He just felt we are very different people and he couldn't see us moving in together, living our lives...he wanted me to change, be healthier and he couldn't see me doing that.

those sound like some real reasons to me... I generally tend to think that when people break up there is a reason for it. one person in the relationship decided they didn't want to be in it and ended it. he gave all those reasons for not wanting to be with you, so how is it going to be any different now? of course you're gonna miss each other but that doesn't necessarily mean you are right for each other. and you can't change people, so if he doesn't see himself ever wanting to move in or live the rest of his life with you, why would you want to waste time being in a relationship with him? it doesn't make sense to me

[ashley89]

If you want to win him back than try ringing his doorbell and when he opens he sees you in a long coat that is open revealing you naked in nothing more than hot underwear. Ofcourse he couldnt let you stay outside like that and if he still dont want anything serious than say that you are pregrant.(trust me - seen this on internet).

I actually just laughed out loud so hard I almost pissed my pants. tell me you're joking... or a troll...

[kskts6115]

Haha that post was ridiculous definitely don't listen to that guy...

But I have to agree with everyone here. Obviously you broke up for a reason and if you try to get back together without solving that problem then it's just going to happen the same way all over again. I think you need to make a list of what you want out of a relationship. Things that you need to make yourself happy. If this guy doesn't have those things or can't supply them then your just going to be hurt in the end again. Do you see what I mean? I understand you love him but sometimes it's just not meant to be and it's hard to accept. Believe me I think everyone on here has felt similar it is extremely difficult but somehow we are managing to get through it at the current moment or have already gone through it and survived.