Cell Phone

[iceman99]

My girl has a big problem with me knowing her cell phone lock pass code. She texts other guys she has previously had sex with and still works with. Is it wrong of me to want to know what she is writing him? She says that they are friends still. I have told her many times that it really bothers me that they still talk. He has a girl friend anyway. I have met the guy and he seems like the really flirty type that would cheat at any given moment. Is it possible for them to just be friends after they have had sex and should I be cool with this? Should we know each others pass codes? I am very confused as what to think. If any women could help me out. She says thats its a privacy issue and I should trust her. I do but I simply don't trust this guy. Please help.

[Diaccio]

I do but I simply don't trust this guy. Please help.

Ok, you don't. And you're right because in my opinion there should be respect to each other, and if she's flirting with other guys (new or old, it's the same issue!) she doesn't respect you! It's normal to stay in contact with old boyfriends, but not to flirt!
You should tell her clearly!
If she doesn't agree, you'll free to do the same! However I think that it's not a good way for a relationship....

[michelle23]

This is a double post

[iceman99]

but she won't let me see what shes saying to this guy. I asked her if I would be upset with anything he says and she said yes.

[VincenzoG91]

The cell phone is irrelevant. The issue here is trust, and you don't have it. I agree with you that she shouldn't be in regular communication with this other guy. The fact that she continues that communication despite knowing how much it bothers you should be a dealbreaker. She clearly values that communication more highly than your relationship, so end it. Dump her and move on.

[Starnique]

^^^This.

It's really not about the phone. You don't trust her and you have a valid reason not to. She shouldn't care about you knowing the passcode unless she is hiding something. She knows it's not right and continue to do it. That's lack of respect for you on her part. Why is she even entertaining this bullshit? You really should break up with this bitch and tell her you moved on to better and don't give her an explanation. You don't owe her that.

[Cerby]

This is a double post

Then report it, don't just comment on it.

[basilandthyme]

iceman, getting her pass code is the wrong way to go. If you've got to resort to spying, then the relationship is already as good as dead.

She knows how you feel but clearly she has different views to you and isn't going to change. I suggest you end it now and find a new girlfriend who has some boundaries which are compatible to yours.

[michelle23]

Then report it, don't just comment on it.

I was just letting people know to respond to the other thread (the first one) instead of having two going at the same time. Makes things easier

[anonymous_a]

If she doesn't want to give you her pass code then she obviously has something to hide, although if you trusted her, you wouldn't make such a fuss about not having it. The fact that she admitted that you probably wouldn't like some of the things this guy is saying to her, shows that she doesn't respect your relationship all that much. If she did, she wouldn't be "friends" with someone who spoke to her inappropriately. You need to tell her that she needs to stop talking to him, or you're out.