Doing my head in

[Foxtrotoscar]

Ok resorted to looking for help online,, story in short version ,, was married 16 years marriage failed I was pretty cut up about it,,, year or less later met this pretty girl and we ended up being together 5 years , she has no baggage is pretty and kind , until she drinks she can be a handful, she moved in and we started to not get on in fact was both our faults and she left me,, I tried to contact her for months but she ignored me so I decided to leave it,,, then I met another girl, not so pretty but has something about her and a big heart, and family that are a nightmare although they all treated me well and I liked them all,we got on well, sex was great, we laughed lots and I was happy we were only together a month or so and I took her on holiday, when on hols my ex found out and contacted me I dumped the new one to return to my ex and wasn't proud of what I did, back with ex and I didn't seem to try hard to get things back as I just can't get the other one out of my head faults and all...main one she tends to swear to. Much.. Anyways my ex says she loves me and we are trying to sort things but I just can't get my head from thinking about the other girl,,,, my decision on what's right changes daily.and it's making me Ill
Choice, pretty one who can be quite dominant and abrupt, but 5 years with and we argue a lot both faults
Or
Big heart short term with all her faults laugh lots although I know it was short term and all relationships start good

Any advice welcome

[4 ratties]

Be single so your not putting each girl through the ringer.
You have no clue who you want and now ur asking complete strangers to ask who your girlfriend should be when we have no clue who they are? That is just sad.
Once again. Why don't u try being single and see how that goes? It will be alot easier sorting your head out not having sex and communicating with one or both girls.

[Foxtrotoscar]

Yeah I guess you're right , just wanted opinions of anyone who had been through the same , sometimes best advice comes from strangers though wasn't asking them to choose , but thanks anyways