How can I fix this relationship?

[lucy39]

First off, we were never boyfriend and girlfriend. But, I basically ruined everything myself and I feel like a total idiot.

So, my friend likes me and I like him back. I guess he wants me to tell him that I like him or something along those lines. He gave me a chance last week when he said that " any guy would be lucky to have you" but I stupidly didn't do anything about it, according to my friend and he says I lost my chance, yet if I lost my chance I do not understand why he is still calling me, wanting to talk to me, etc. I feel so stupid for ruining my chance to be with him. I'm just scared to tell him I like him because I did that with another guy before and our relationship went downhill and we weren't as good as friends as we were before. I also don't want to go straight up and kiss him. I mean, I want to if it shows I really care about him and that I like him but I am afraid that it will lead him to never wanting to talk to me again. Help? How can I show this guy I really want to be with him and that I like him? I want to fix everything. I screwed up, so I want to fix it and make it right. If he didn't like he he wouldn't make the effort to still call me and tell me these things, right?

I do not know how to tell him I like him without freaking him out or anything as because it happened to me before. But I know he still likes me. Any advice would be appreciated, thank you for your help. I just do not want to lose a really amazing guy to someone else when I can fix this.

[Boisdevie]

Dear me, you're getting yourself into a state over this. Calm down. Perhaps try to reduce your caffeine intake or something. Jeez, if he wasn't interested he woulnd't stay in touch. 'According to my friend I lost my chance' - so you're friend is some kind of expert in relationships?
It really is simple, ask him out on a date. When you're on the date touch him, kiss him, show him you want more than to be just friends.

As an aside I'm a big of an environmentalist I have for some time been worried about overpopulation. So many of you Americans seem so unlikely to ever actually procreate because you're so ****ed up/anxious that perhaps I should stop worrying.

[lucy39]

thanks! I actually might do that. Well I'm not so sure about the date part, but I do want to talk to him in person and tell him how I feel. I just don't want to do it in a way to freak him out and never want to talk to me again :/

[Rowen]

Yeah, definitely ask him out. It's not rocket science.

[michelle23]

Just text him and tell him you like him. Its not a big deal and he obviously likes you too.

Stop becoming "friends" with guys. If you want to date him-great but if it doesn't work out-don't expect to stay "friends". It don't work like that