this man is confused

[mickmarss]

I was dating this great girl for almost 9 months. One day we had a fight and she ended it. It was coming she said, as she said we were moving to fast. I was shocked and hurt and didn't understand.

She said we could still be together but take it slower and we have been. Though at times she says she is confused by what is going on, she always says she loves me.

There is a six year age difference between us and she said she has issues with commitment. Settling down scares her

Last week I recieved this text from her

I just wanna thank you for the last few days. I can't tell yo how much i appreciate you being in my life. You are my rock, you have seen me ball my eyes out to letting me cry on your shoulder, to us laughing over the dumbest things until our stomach hurt and our eyes watered. I cant wait to see what the future holds for us and to be able to live moments that i will remember for the rest of my life. ILOVEYOU.

Thank you for putting up with me when im insane and talking to me about your problems,you mean the world to me


This confuses me a bit more

how should i handle what is going on right now?

[Rowen]

What's so god damn confusing about it?

Let me lay out the only fact that matters for you....

She can't commit. <---- This tells you all you need to know. Because if she can't commit and settle down, there's no point in trying to date her. She needs to work on that before she can get involved with someone again. And it can't be for you or for another guy or anyone else... It has to be for her. Otherwise, she's doing it for the wrong reasons.

Tell her you really care about her, but she needs to deal with her issues on her own. Tell her that a relationship will only muddy that too much and that her working through it would put too much stress on a relationship.

Because, if you would get back together with her, it won't work. I'm telling you that because I've been there before. It only gets messy, and hurt feelings from the last bad relationship start to soil the new one. Not to mention, it starts to become more of a job trying to stay together than actually being together.... People need to stand on their own feet, and she needs to do so, as well. If she's going to work out her issues, it can't be for someone else, and it can't be with someone.

I know it's tough to hear, but it's true.

[smackie9]

I'm gonna go with she is bi-polar.....good luck with that.

[Wakeup]

I'm going to go with you're being easily played.

You want to continue on entertaining her bullshit or do you want to tell her to shit or get off the pot?

Players only love you when they're playing.

[mickmarss]

What's so god damn confusing about it?

Let me lay out the only fact that matters for you....

She can't commit. <---- This tells you all you need to know. Because if she can't commit and settle down, there's no point in trying to date her. She needs to work on that before she can get involved with someone again. And it can't be for you or for another guy or anyone else... It has to be for her. Otherwise, she's doing it for the wrong reasons.

Tell her you really care about her, but she needs to deal with her issues on her own. Tell her that a relationship will only muddy that too much and that her working through it would put too much stress on a relationship.

Because, if you would get back together with her, it won't work. I'm telling you that because I've been there before. It only gets messy, and hurt feelings from the last bad relationship start to soil the new one. Not to mention, it starts to become more of a job trying to stay together than actually being together.... People need to stand on their own feet, and she needs to do so, as well. If she's going to work out her issues, it can't be for someone else, and it can't be with someone.

I know it's tough to hear, but it's true.

that was hepfil..i havent been talking relationship..just taking it slow hoping i get lucky

[Rowen]

that was hepfil..i havent been talking relationship..just taking it slow hoping i get lucky

I wouldn't bank on it, though.