Help me

[skeeziix]

I wrote a prior post asking if "All guys are the same" apparently I am told they aren't. I have been googling the topic of technology, porn, facebook, snapchat, all these things getting in between relationships. There is a whole website called facebookcheating.com. I have been engaged 3 times and have been in about 5 long term relationships where some sort of issue with these types of things have surfaced. My first fiance liked to look at porn being only 23 at the time I didn't understand it and didn't think it was appropriate, but when I confronted him about it I was made to think I was crazy for finding any fault in it. My second relationship my fiance was caught chatting on his phone over a dating website yahoo personals when confronted he made it seem like it was just innocent pass-time, later to find he was using some video chat to masturbate online while watching other people masturbate. My last fiance also displayed the same deviant behaviors looking at porn, chatting women up on facebook. I just got out of a 2.5 month relationship with a man who was on a dating website POF.com, he also was caught looking at other women's photos on facebook, and snapchat. I know that everyone would like to point the finger at me that I have a broken picker but how can I be to blame for finding these people over and over and over.

How do I go about establishing boundaries and expectations so I don't find myself in the same situations?

[THX]

Your expectations aren't reasonable for a large portion of the population. Monogamy can be hard enough in the real world. When you start to demand it in fantasy as well your kinda pitting yourself against human nature.

[michelle23]

Your obviously picking the wrong guys if they keep cyber cheating on facebook or webcams.. do you dive in head first and ignore red flags? How long were you with these guys when you got engaged? 3 engagements is a lot!

What about sex in the relationship? Is it a priority for you? Do you make sure hes satisfied? Im not saying its an excuse to cheat but it is hard to stay committed if your not getting enough at home..

Were these long distance relationships? Did these guys have a history of cheating or a history of no strings attached sex?

Your picker is off and you are choosing the wrong type.

Your standards may be too high though. Do you consider looking at a fully dressed picture of someone he knows on FB or snap chat cheating? If yes, that is you being too insecure. Im not on snap chat, neither is my bf-I don't even know how it works.. maybe find a guy that couldn't be bothered with modern technology. My bf didn't even have a FB account until a few years ago when I made one for him so he could send me gifts on farmville lol

If your this insecure about it-then find a guy whos computer illiterate