Deep rooted issues

[NYC]

I just started dating someone, and she has some serious sexual abuse issues from the past.

I really like this person, I'm physically attracted to her and we have alot of things in common. We've spent alot of time together recently, and I really like being around her.

When it comes time to be intimate, she backs off... She hesitates in the cuddling department, doesn't make any moves, and insists on having alot of space when it comes time to sleep.

I am really on the fence with what to do. A part of me feels like if I take the time to work with her and be patient, we could build something amazing and beautiful. On the other hand, this could turn into a frustrating emotional roller coaster. I'm a passionate guy so I'm starting to get a little frustrated.

I decided to take my time, and focus on some of my personal pursuits like the gym so I don't get too distracted in trying to make this work.

I've raised the issue with her, and she's willing to take steps to resolve this I think... But that's outside of my control.

What do you folks think? This is something new and I don't think we should go for therapy since we started dating, so I need a strategy to deal with this on my own.

Thanks!

[smackie9]

She should be going to counseling if she is still having issues with intimacy. This isn't yours to fix, she needs to take extra steps to resolve this.

Maybe this isn't a good time for her to be in a committed relationship of any kind.