Help Me Out PLEASE...

[wondering]

hi im currently a student..well i know this gurl when i was young..at that time i dun really know who she is..but soon i seldom met her anymore..end of last year i met her back in a tuition class..well im fall for her...after sometime i get to chat with her online and we know each other better...soon i approach to let her know my feelings and she rejected because at that time, she already had a bf (which is one of my friend, but well i didnt know it at first) but we still kinda friend... then soon they broke up..recently i feel that she got some interest in me (im not sure) cos during tuition classes, ill sit behind and she will sit few rows in front of me..sumtimes she will turn back and look at me..and when we go back she will have sum talk with me..then soon i get her phone number and we started with sms and soon talking on phone..during the first few times on sms she shows that she really want cares and love from me..but soon after a few times talking on phone, she didnt reply my sms and she seems doesnt get enough care and love from me..can anyone help me out how to make her feel that i care and love her..im afraid being rejected again..how can i show that i love her and how do i hint so that to make sure she does love me too or im just thinking too much..?thanks for helping..

[whaywardj]

...to make sure she does love me too or im just thinking too much..?thanks for helping..

The fact of the matter is you can't ever be SURE if anyone "loves you, too." You can only trust that they do on the basis of what they say and, vastly more important, how they behave. That's part of why affairs of the heart can both build and destroy character. Doubts, apprehensions AND hopes are always turned back on you. What you believe or don't believe. What you trust or don't trust. What you forgive or don't forgive. What you dare to dream or are afraid of dreaming.

[wondering]

but the problem..her action shows that she does at first..now.. nope.. her words shows that she does loves me...but somehow now she been so cool..i just cant understand what she wants actually and who am i for her in the first place.. at first she says that she really want care and love from me..can anyone tell me how shall i show my care and love for her...what can i do or ask to get sum hint whether she really did love me or she just take me as her friend?

[Tone]

How is it whack jobs like this guy meet girls but I can't. =/

[whaywardj]

Tried wearing your heart on your sleeve lately, Tone? Girls love picking flowers such as that.

[Bluevetteracer]

WRONG THREAD

[Bluevetteracer]

WRONG THREAD

[whaywardj]

Welp. So much for heeding any further advice from Bluevette. The charade is known and what it hid has shone.

[misombra]

Because they are no threat, women know exactly what they are getting with men like this. With a guy like this women are in the driver's seat, call the shots, set the mood and have the locus of control. They don't have to be nervous, set excited, or have any expectations.

When men like us, they are dealing with master Jedi's. There is a good chance they will fall in love with us, and then become hurt if it does not materialize. Many women would rather settle for a sure thing, then chance it on a dream guy that they would have to work for.

Girls date guys like this, but they dream of guys like us. Go out and find one, take the chance, and make the move. Don't wait for life to come to you.

everybody is entitled to their opinion bluevetter, but you are wrong.

[Bluevetteracer]

WRONG THREAD

[Junsui]

Unless you are freezing to death, in the arctic and fighting for survival, what are you doing spooning with another man????????????????

Men show affection for each other verbally, and by being there when the other is in bind, not by spooning.

Homosexuality is wrong in so many ways, that it is not even worth dissecting it.

Don't go down that road, stay on the STRAIGHT and narrow.

Where did this come from? Did I miss something in the first post?

[Ellynn]

Where did this come from? Did I miss something in the first post?

I think this person accidentally posted in the wrong thread. He meant it for the bi guy's(Kieroline's) thread I bet...

[Bluevetteracer]

hi im currently a student..well i know this gurl when i was young..at that time i dun really know who she is..but soon i seldom met her anymore..end of last year i met her back in a tuition class..well im fall for her...after sometime i get to chat with her online and we know each other better...soon i approach to let her know my feelings and she rejected because at that time, she already had a bf (which is one of my friend, but well i didnt know it at first) but we still kinda friend... then soon they broke up..recently i feel that she got some interest in me (im not sure) cos during tuition classes, ill sit behind and she will sit few rows in front of me..sumtimes she will turn back and look at me..and when we go back she will have sum talk with me..then soon i get her phone number and we started with sms and soon talking on phone..during the first few times on sms she shows that she really want cares and love from me..but soon after a few times talking on phone, she didnt reply my sms and she seems doesnt get enough care and love from me..can anyone help me out how to make her feel that i care and love her..im afraid being rejected again..how can i show that i love her and how do i hint so that to make sure she does love me too or im just thinking too much..?thanks for helping..

The English Language is a tool, use it effectively, or post in your native script if English is not your vernacular.

[whaywardj]

Where it's coming from Junsui, IMHO, is that Bluevette is, at core, a homophobic, pontificating, pompous ass whose truly charming romantic baiting I'd pity any woman's becoming a victim of. And since he's, evidently, removed the post which first prompted me to say that, he also tries to take back what he says and this thread makes even less sense than the absurdity of his remarks already rendered it. But, I could be wrong. Maybe he's not an ass. Maybe he's just so insecure in his self-righteousness that he needs to be accepted at any cost. Even if it means he has to misrepresent himself to acquire affection, or try to sweep under the excuse of a "wrong thread" slips of tongue that might invite criticism. Indicates, to me, a slippery personality in which I'd be highly cautious of placing any of my trust or confidence.

Wondering: Do not seek to give any hints to or acquire any confirmations from the object of your affection. Just enjoy to the fullest whatever IS there. If anything more is possible, it will emerge from that on its own, without any help -- or interference -- from you.

[misombra]

amen brother.