does she like me more that a friend

[scooby]

hi all new to this site i really need some advice this women started in my place of work a few months back and we have become close ive been helping her with a course she is doing in a few weeks we have been texting every other day i always start the texting but she always texts back using emoji like blush face wink face with tongue out. at work we have playfull fun if i showed her a picture of me with friends or family she would say awwh lovely photo pity about u haha we were supposed to to something yesterday together outside of work but she cancelled saying she was to tired but she was very sorry we can do it another time. the thing is im married but my marriage is nearly over has been for a while. my question is would she be a bit hesintant to spend time with me coz im married and dont want trouble how would i know if she liked me now i have worked really hard on my marriage but to no avail. would this girl not really show her true feelings till im single again. when we talk i can see a glimmer in her eye please any advice welcome

[smackie9]

I would be leery about a man's integrity if he was sniffing around me to be a new prospect before bothering with getting a divorce settled first.

It doesn't matter if your marriage is over.....you are still married, and that is a big red flag in most women's book.


If you don't want to spoil your chances with her.....keep it in your pants until yo get your shit together.

[breathe123]

Are you still living with your wife, do you have children together?

[scooby]

im living with my wife but we dont talk and we have no children she works alot and when shes home im at work i really like this other girl i dont know what to do im torn me and my wife have not been happy in over 2 years

[breathe123]

IDK ~ she might be very much put off by the fact you & your wife are still cohabitating together & not close to any separation if grown apart as you said. Deal with ending your marriage first before exploring other relationships would be my advice.

[scooby]

thanks very much breathe i will follow ur advice

[TheEvilJester]

I definitely understand how you feel. I was in a failing marriage myself in a relationship I SHOULD have ended long before we finally did. When we finally made the decision to end the marriage, I'd been miserable for so long that I was surprised with how rapidly I recovered. I guess it had just been over in my own mind for so long that it was easy to realize I was better off and to start the road to recovery. ...So, much like you, I actually started to notice women before I really thought I'd be ready.

So, I definitely get that desire to move on. You've been stuck in a relationship that only hurts you, so you badly want to be able to experience one that actually makes you feel good. The thing is, it really is best if you can deal with ending your marriage first. I mean, if I understand correctly, it sounds like you haven't even begun to move towards a divorce yet. I could be wrong, but it sounds like you both know it is over, but have not yet taken action to actually end it.

You even still live with her. It can be as over as possible in your mind, but if it isn't official yet, how is any gal supposed to know that? That will remain a huge red flag for a lot of women, and many won't even bother to pursue a relationship for that reason. No matter how much you may know it is over, how is she to really know that you're not just one of those guys who says he's getting a divorce, but actually never has the intention of doing so.

So, for now, don't worry about whether or not she likes you as more than a friend. If your marriage truly is over, and truly cannot be fixed, then work on getting a divorce finalized. As it is, after that you may really need some time to heal and just be alone. Hopefully yours goes smoothly, but divorces can get pretty ugly. A new love interest shouldn't have to be in the middle of that, or even on the sidelines having to watch it hurting you.

Once your marriage is officially over and you've taken some time to heal, then maybe consider revisiting your friendship with this gal and seeing if maybe there could be something there. Trying to jump into it too soon would likely just not work out well. Good luck to you. Nobody deserves to wind up marrying the wrong person. I can understand that pain from experience. I think, even more so than others, those of us who suffer through that truly deserve to find the right person, because we suffered through the heartache of finding the wrong person. I hope you find the right one soon, whether it winds up being this gal or not. Either way, though, I hope you get yourself out of this toxic situation and learn to be happy just within you again.

Good luck!

[scooby]

thanks so so so much evil jester u hit the nail on the head really appreciate ur advice