Are you a sucker: Yes or no?

[S0NofHAM]

If you cried about a hundred times in a month after a breakup, and were depressed and cried nearly every single day, but your ex wasn't depressed at all and didn't cry once, would you want to get back with her?

1. Yes
2. No

[dollhouse]

Yup. Sucker regarding my last long term relationship that broke up before Christmas the year and reason I joined here...he didn't cry or give two shits because he was a cheat and already onto the next during our relationship. he'd moved on while still with me.

No, never wanted him back.

[S0NofHAM]

I was a sucker for a long time, and I was always chasing her, and I finally realized not to cry for someone who doesn't shed a tear for me.

Here's to not being a sucker!

[pcmaster]

I been sucker now grew up and think wont suck anymore. Currently in love with a girl but if we break up I will continue to live and try not to cry.

[breathe123]

I voted ~ No.

I cry over deaths of people & that kind of loss but never really over love or loss of love that much. Still lots of time ahead for me to be one though.

[TheEvilJester]

In fairness, I don't think that makes you a "sucker." It is natural to want to have a special connection with somebody, and it is natural to mourn the loss of a relationship you thought could maybe have been that special connection. Sometimes some people take it harder than others might. Sometimes, a certain relationship effects you more deeply than another might. That does not make you a sucker. That makes you human.

Hell, if you were a sucker, you wouldn't even be arriving at the conclusion that you are probably better off moving on rather than allowing her to continue to toy with your emotions. If you went back to her only for her to toss you aside again..... then she came running back right when you were just about to move on again.... and you took her back again.... and lather, rinse, repeat.... Yeah, then maybe you would be a sucker. But, you lost something you once thought could have been the real thing. What kind of human being would you be if you just forgot that instantly like it meant nothing to you?

[S0NofHAM]

Deadpool,

I get the fact that it is normal to grieve a loss of a loved one, whether it be a friend or family member who passed away, or a romantic love that can never be kindled again. Indeed, i have grieved plenty, and felt a pain that makes life confusing and pointless and suicide sound like a reasonable solution. Thankfully, I have stopped grieving.

However, my point is that whether or not I was a sucker in the past, I would *definitely* be a sucker now if I kept fighting for a woman who hasn't cried for me once, when I've cried for a hundred times.

yesterday on the phone, she admitted that she was letting me cry for a month to punish me, and admitting that it was all game by saying "don't get mad at me if you don't know how to play the game."

Hahaha hahaha. .....

she's right about one thing: I shouldn't be mad at her for allowing her to play me. I should be mad at myself for allowing myself to be played like a fiddle.

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I told her last night to stop calling texting or emailing me, and that she was just making it harder on me. Hopefully she leaves me alone finally. It shouldn't be hard for her, because she never criedfor me. She knows nothing of the pain I went through the last month. Her struggle will be peanuts compared to my struggle.

[lovebroken]

Yes. I am a crier and a sucker. I hurt and hold onto that hurt for far too long if I have loved someone especially if we have been together over two years plus.

[TheEvilJester]

No, believe me, I get you. But I still don't think that makes you a sucker. Okay, to some degree I suppose if you KEPT pursuing her even despite everything she's done lately, then maybe you'd have an argument there. Honestly, though, I'd still be reluctant to use such a provocative title like that anyway because it can sometimes be hard to let go of somebody/an idea even when you know deep down you'd be so much better off letting go.

Now, I had a friend who used to date all the time.... and within like a week or two he and his gal would be engaged...... and then within another few weeks that be at each other's throats and HATING each other..... and then within another few weeks they'd be over. He repeated this process OVER and OVER. That guy, maybe I'd be willing to say he was a sucker because he never learned from his mistakes. Not only was that foolish to do in the first place to be falling SO hard SO fast.... but to repeat the process over and over after it kept going so poorly?

At least you seem to be learning from your mistakes. If you do learn from them and move on, then you are no sucker. That, in fact, would make you somebody worthy of a pat on the back, and somebody who should be proud of himself. So, good luck and become that person who can say he's taken a difficult time and used it to come out stronger than ever.