Ok, here is an odd question.

[Ratfish256]

Have you ever had those feeling of attraction that you just want to get rid of? Not because you arent attracted, but for other reasons? Here is the back story. I recently discovered I have pretty strong feelings for a friend of mine. Now back in april we were going to start dating, but in the end both of our lives were just too hectic and we decided not to in order to perserve our friendship. I dont know if she has similar feelings for me as I do for her. I wouldnt be opposed to anything happening if she did, but it dont want to tell her how I feel and have her go nuts. I like her alot as a friend, and I would be fine if it stays that way. So besides the whole cold shower routine, is there anything you found that helps? I guess I could try meeting someone else, that seems like it would work, but in my postion I dont really have much time for that until after december. Someone please tell me to not tell her anything. Despite the fact that I am against telling her, I think each day that goes by I am slowly changing my mind.

[Ellynn]

Try dating other people.... If that doesn't work.....then I would truly consider your feelings for your friend. I understand you don't want to put your friendship at risk....but sometimes some of the best relationships are built on friendship. So maybe it is worth the risk?

[updraft]

Go on dating sites...thats how i met the love of my life....

[Ratfish256]

Try dating other people.... If that doesn't work.....then I would truly consider your feelings for your friend. I understand you don't want to put your friendship at risk....but sometimes some of the best relationships are built on friendship. So maybe it is worth the risk?

Yeah, im totaly into dating other people. The problem is, im working 60ish hours a week all in the evening and at night until january. This doesnt leave me much time to meet new people. As a result I end up talking to her alot. Id love a chance to get closer to her, but I honestly doubt it would ever happen. Ill have to find a way of saying it all, without changing everything if she say no. Some way to keep it light. Have any advice for that?

[Ellynn]

Ok, I can understand how with your hectic schedule you really can't meet anyone new.....

As for dealing with her....just do subtle things....or jokingly say nice stuff to her. See how she reacts....


Honestly I know how it is to want to get rid of your feelings for someone...for the fact of knowing its almost impossible for things to work out. Thats how things were with a coworker of mine and me a few months ago. We would flirt...but honestly I would not date him because of seeing him all the time....and because he's above me in a job position....so things would be awkward... It definately helps now that we are scheduled mostly opposite days....

[whaywardj]

So where's the "odd question" part?

[Ellynn]

Yeah its not really an odd question. I cannot count how many times people have come on here being in love with a good friend of theirs and yet being afraid of letting them no in fear of ruining the friendship....
........or......wanting to get over someone.........

But thats ok....it worked because obviously some of us read it and replied....