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Exactly. Only to act on those fantasies, does the line become crossed into cheaterland.

Fantasy cheating.. never heard of it.

Some harsh words, but I agree with you 100%.

These are two pet peeves of mine. And by no means am I directing this towards you (janedoe), don't get me wrong, I'm just stating this for discussion...

I disagree with porn being viewed as cheating. I think it's a healthy way to avoid actual (physical) cheating in a relationship.

I'm a girl and I watch porn (quite often), yet every time I make...

Yes, I agree with Cinnabella.

I loved it when my boyfriend would do that. Nothing like wake up sex to start your day off right!

mmmm

And don't make any rash decisions based on what you read from our responses. We can only offer advice as we don't know the whole story.

Absorb what we say, but also listen to what's inside your...

I understand your struggle; I am in the same position as you are.

I think either way you are taking a risk. It's just up to you to determine which risk outweighs the other.

You can always try...

I definitely agree. Watching porn will help you with the lack of experience.

It's like going to sex school.

These are all just third party opinions.

Ultimately do what you feel is right for you, cuz no one else can tell you what that is.

I've already posted on this forum a bit, but still have yet to formally introduce myself, so here goes..

I'm Catherine, from Toronto, Canada, and I came here initially for advice on my current...

Jeez.. well I'm glad you came here for support!

Welcome :)

Honestly, anal sex isn't that bad. It can actually feel really good (for both partners), after the initial insertion.

If you haven't even tried it, don't knock it. Give it a go.

If you're...

LOL. That's attractive.

I think the need for lube depends on how turned on you (the female) get from being with your sexual partner.

Haha.. likely the truth. (Boss's erection)

I have to agree with others- this is 100% an abusive relationship.

You are definitely NOT selfish, or uncaring of his needs. He's acting like a 16 year old insecure boy who desperately needs to...

And it sounds more like a third chance, and that is one too many IMO.

Ugh.. your story leaves me with a bad feeling in my stomach, and gives me flashbacks of when my boyfriend (or ex I should say) left me out of the blue a couple years ago for a month (we were together...

As long as these are things that happened outside of your relationship (time period) then I would just leave it be, and not even bother with wanting to know.

Just make it clear to her that you...

Ooh, okay, so the story changes.

I definitely don't support her straightforward lying.

Have you brought this up with her yet? (The fact that you know)

I still wouldn't let this become a...

Please don't lie to a girl about loving her, that's the worst.

Honesty is always the best policy. If she flips out, then she's not the girl for you.

Lol, hmm.. reminds me of something other than tough and manly. ;)

Still a cute pet name regardless :)

The two of you weren't together then- is it really any of your business what she does?
Would it be any of her business what you were up to when you weren't with her?

You say you no longer are...

Thanks reeba,

You made very good points. And he's had two vegas trips with his buddies over the last couple years, so yes I'm sure there's probably a lot more that I don't know about..

Did you ever think of just asking her what she meant by that?

Being direct about it will likely give you the answer you're seeking.