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He wants to talk tomorrow. I don't know what to say. I'm sure it's hard
To feel a deep connection w me because I'm used to my relationship w my ex where he barely spoke to me under same roof and...

Maybe he's just scared of commitment bc that night's dinner was the first time we'd talked (albeit in vague terms, about our general attitudes, not "us") about topics like where he thought he might...

Why do you think he brought up and asked if its ok if we talk once were both back in town, though?

Rather than text to ask "when can we talk?," I literally just said "busy week and after tonight, I'll basically be traveling for the weekend and then busy until
Tuesday." Almost as though I were...

looked thru my ex's phone after he claimed he'd been out "alone" but smelled of cologne, was super dressed up. He'd been out with a single female coworker alone.
Any text messages that he ended up...

What do I do w that text? Is it potentially a change of heart? Because the whole situation was so odd, him seeming to have a great dinner w me, then saying some generic thing about how we "don't have...

So I texted him just now saying I really care about him and last night seemed so out of character and I hope he's ok. He responded that he really cares about me too, "even if it's hard to see that...

I was literally going to say something to him like "you're someone whom I care a lot about and last night was really out of character... hoping you're ok and would like to talk more with a clearer...

I'd been dating a guy for a month. we could talk for hours, started off as fun witty banter but later learned we aligned on important issues (values, career) too. Had sex after 3rd date and it was...

This is really off base -- I just know it. But you are right in saying that it's stupid for me to not be able to talk to him a bout a relationship/commitment if i can talk about sex without condoms....

That was the point of getting a clear statement that he isn't sleeping with anyone else before not using condom. as far as dating others? Literally logically impossible sincce he's with me or at his...

Thank you. But he's already confirmed that we're exclusive as in he's not sleeping with anyone else. So in his mind things may be obvious and he may wonder what exactly I need reassurance about. I...

I just don't want to come off as over-analytical or demanding.

but is that awkward to just throw out there? some of my friends are like, listen it's only 6 weeks, let things hAPPEN naturally

Yes, I slept with this person very early on, which was something I'd never done before but felt right. but sex has never been the main focus of our time together, not even close actually. Lots of...

Been dating someone new for 6 weeks. We spend tons of time together, not just having sex or "hanging out" but real dates, and also double dates with his or my friends. I've met all his friends &...

Right. I'm so glad I said what I said to him. I'm not a second-best, hidden woman on the side. I'm not an American toy for him to play with. If he can't make a single sacrifice for me, then he...

I think if he knows I'm dating other people and I refuse to talk to my ex further without a commitment, then he'll realize he no longer has that "hold" on me and he'll probably disappear out of my...

It feels different because we've gone thru a few rounds of him wanting to get back together, but now he's stuck on "why cant we best friends and share our lives even while i marry someone else and...

Right, so why is he so insistent that we share our lives as friends? Stupid. I wish he would just realize that it's not going to work that way, and he should follow his heart and be with me, even...

I told him that it was horrible to not even try to tell his parents about me once, and instead downgrade me to his little hidden 2nd-best friend who has to watch him marry someone else.

UPDATE: I am disgusted. He keeps saying how he's praying i'll want to be his friend because he wants to "share his life" with me. HOW can this man not see how incredibly selfish it is to think...

I agree and I also feel that he'd be putting himself through the same pain, attachment, and eventual misery as me if he chooses to enter into a relationship again with me. Yet he's choosing it. By...

No, he's saying that he will introduce me to his parents. But not now and I think I get it. Once he introduces me to his parents, we may as well be engaged because it's a huge, controversial,...

Thanks. That's sort of my point. I just moved far away. He was the one who suddenly brought up, "Can we see how things go between us? I've just never felt this way about anyone before..." No one...