I have a boyfriend and we've been together for only 4 months but it doesn't mean my feelings aren't deep. It is serious between us but there's always this nagging feeling in me that I can't seem to trust him. Maybe it's because I've caught him lying. Before me, he had a girlfriend of 5 years and they broke up 3 months before he met me. He told me he was totally over her and he already threw everything that has anything to do with her from his house. Note that i didnt ASK nor did i say anything about him throwing their memories together, but when i visited his place, he was really defensive about me opening his cabinet (i was sleeping over and tried to get a bath towel) and it made him upset. Of course I became suspicious about the whole thing and after arguing about it, he opened his cabinet and it was FULL of his ex's stuff. Her lotion, pictures of them together (three of which are even framed), old movie tickets, her old toothbrush, you get the picture. So I asked him why he lied to me about throwing all her stuff away and he said sorry and he just didnt have the time to throw it away but he just wanted to reassure me that he's over her.
Fast forward to another month and a lot has happened. I would sometimes call him and ask where he is and he'd tell me he's in his room when the background CLEARLY sounds like he is out, or i'd find a hickey on his neck and he would INSIST that I made the hickey the last time we made out even if I don't remember putting that hickey on. He also has a lot of promiscuous friends and he has a history of sleeping with hookers and this is the part that really bothers me recently that made me post this and just see if i am being crazy. We used to have our lunch breaks together everyday since our offices are practically next to each other, but now we don't. He also always seems short on money (he ran out of money just 4 days after receiving his paycheck) lately when before he wasn't. He's also going out with his friends more on his own when before he always wants me to be around. When I pointed this out of course he retaliated with the whole I am being clingy argument.
I don't think I am. I am asking him because the very thing that is bothering me is the CHANGE. So I have a theory and I am asking for your opinion if it sounds sane. Maybe he is NOT over his ex, and yes, maybe they aren't fooling around behind my back, but maybe I am just rebound girl since if he is DOING SOMETHING (or someone haha) then that means he is not really fully in love with me yet? What do I do? Do I shut up? Given the suspicious turn of events, how can I trust him? Or SHOULD I even trust him? Thanks for your opinion guys.