Decisions, decisions

[Loveless2014]

Here it goes. I'm in need of some adive.
I met this guy when I was 20 he was 30 at the time. We started talking and we ended up making a connection. After a while he asked me to be his girlfriend and of course I said yes. We dated for 5 yrs my family disliked him and never approved our relationship because of the age difference and he had a child. I didn't care what anybody said I was madly in love with him. In the 5yrs we never had sex because I want to wait till marriage. my life pretty much revolved around him. He introduced me to his brothers and friends, everything was going great and I fell in love. That was until I found out he was married. I actually found out through Facebook. I confronted him about it and he didn't deny or accept it. There are no words to describe the pain I felt. I gave everything for him and he lied to me. I was outraged and heartbroken. I decided to get back at him and tell his wife on Facebook that her husband was cheating on her. She saw my messages and didn't care (she lives in Mexico n he's here in the US). He keeps txt me, telling me he misses me and wants to see me. I really love him, I know I shouldn't that's it's wrong but I can't control what I feel. He said he's wife told him about the messages. She obviously didn't care.... What should I do???? Be his mistress? Leave him??? Help Please

[smackie9]

Good lord I want to slap some sense into you. This guy lied to you, pretended to be single, it's all been a charade. Have you no dignity?? He isn't the guy you are in love with. Your family knows this guy is bad news, I know this guy is bad news, and so should you.

Cut him off, and deal with life without him. Don't worry you will get over it and meet an honorable man that will marry you. You said you wanted to wait til marriage, so why would you throw all that away on a cheating lying bastard like him? You will regret it. You do run the risk that he will dump you after he has sex with you, and don't say he would never do that....there have been plenty that have come here crying the blues about the guy ditching them after they got what they wanted from the girl. Don't be that girl!

[Wakeup]

I gave everything for him

Well... not quite Everything.:

In the 5yrs we never had sex

... and ...
How can you be his "mistress" if you don't have sex with him until you're married?

Cool story bro.

[smackie9]

Yer an idiot. There is no sex involved, so why would the wife care? He's not going to marry you so you will always be a virgin lol. Sounds like a plan.