Originally Posted by
eve.ashley
it seems pretty harmless.
the email. it shows he hasn't been in regular contact with her, and, for some reason, wanted to know how she was doing.
i have ex bf of all sorts...some of them i'd maybe sleep with again, some of them i have feelings for but would never sleep with again, some i hate....
honestly, did you consider this could be your wake up call, to fight less and love more...
we do not own our partner or their feelings, you hit a rough patch and he tried to get, in, so far harmless, contact with an old gf, that he might or might not have romantic feelings for...
it happens...
i also have old bfs i absolutely could be friends with, no romantic feelings for them.
the email was not sexual, romantic or nostalgic.
maybe he even wanted to ask advice about you guys and your fighting...
the fact that he asked you to go through his email shows he has nothing to hide.
if you want, you can ask your bf about the email, and say the truth, you accidentally found it.
but!
darling, don't be angry and accusing him of stuff when you do it.
that is not how you nurture a relationship...be brave and tell him the truth...
say, you are worried, since things haven't exactly been ok between you guys, and you found this email.
you also should be ready that he says she is an ex he feels he can be in contact with, coz there is not romantic feelings on either side...not all exes are the same...
honey, you do not own this person, he is not your robot, hear him out and tell him you are afraid of losing him...
don't be angry and hurt at, seemingly, harmless things, communicate and voice your concerns...