So I met this guy (let's call him A) through a friend. We were introduced on a couple different occasions, but things remained awkward between us because we still hardly knew each other.
About a month ago, I decided to ask him to my sorority formal, figuring we would either hit it off or at least finally know that we weren't compatible. He said yes and we ended up having a super amazing time and totally connecting!
He texts me a couple days later and asks to hang out, so for the next couple weeks we spent a lot of time together basically going on lots of fun dates. Hiking, concerts, trail running, playing music together, lots of great conversations. At one point we even went to this concert thing with a bunch of friends and had some mild PDA--nothing but a little cuddling, but enough that people began to identify us as a couple. I must note that in all of these dates, he was the one to text me and set them up and suggest the different outings. One time I invited him to a concert, but it was on a day that we'd already been on a hike and I wanted to see the band anyway.
So last Tuesday, we went running together and then I went to hang out at his place. He told me, "guys are clueless so I just want you to know that I like hanging out with you and I want to keep doing that." It felt really sweet...I wasn't completely sure what he meant by it but the whole interaction felt good! We left with tentative plans to attend a bible study and an improv show together, but nothing actually set.
The next few days I hear nothing from him and get a little stressed. I go to the bible study on Friday and expect to see him there, but he doesn't show. I text him: "I'm at the bible study and you are not! I miss you!"... no response. Finally, ten minutes after it's supposed to end, he finally arrives. The bible study wraps up and each of us mingle with friends, then I join A and we walk over to the improv show.
After the show is over, he and I walk back towards where both of us live on campus. We chat for a bit, then he drops the bomb: "It seems like lately we've been moving toward a relationship, but I don't think I want a relationship right now." He goes on to tell me that he really liked me at first, but now he "just isn't feeling it." I found out later from a friend that A felt really bad about turning me down, and that he consulted pastors and mentor figures before talking to me. He's never been in a relationship before (he's 19, I'm 20) so it could be that he's just cautious and/or really serious about dating someone he'd want to marry... which I am as well, but since I've dated before I'm not as daunted by the idea of a relationship.
Since this "breakup" of sorts, I texted him the next day basically just telling him I had a great time and that I have no hard feelings. I've seen him around a couple times; never long enough to talk, not that I'd necessarily want to. He seems to be intentionally not liking any of my social media posts, and it's basically just no contact. The problem is, I am high key devastated that he ended things before even giving it a chance. Of course, given that it's the end of a school year and we're both busy with finals, this may not be the best time to start a relationship... but I really do miss him and still like him a lot.
SO MY QUESTION IS: do you think there is hope for us in the future? Based on his behavior, do you think he'll ever want me back? And if so, is there anything I can do right not to make myself more appealing to him? Thank you!!! and sorry for such a long post!