Hello ladies of the internet. I have a question for you, and would greatly appreciate some honest input. I have this friend I've known since high school that I liked, but never acted on because I was too shy back then. We've remained in contact for the most part since then. Fast forward 10 years later and we start talking again after a hiatus from contact for an unknown reason. We started spending more and more time together, and it eventually developed into a "let's take it slow" kind of relationship because of her past two relationships, one of which being a crumbling of a marriage a while back. After seeing each other for a few weeks, she said that we were official. She leads a very busy life; two kids, a job on the weekends, and school on the weekdays. We set up a schedule to see each other about every other day, and spend the night on Sundays. This remained constant for a bit, but eventually she said we needed to cut it back a bit due to her busy life, which I understood. I knew going into this that there would be lots of sacrifices like this that needed to be made, and I was willing to make them. So, one day she tells me that she's going into a panic because she feels she doesn't know where she's going or what she's doing in her life, and all this anxiety is making her second guess herself on her ability to be in a relationship. So, she requested we take things back a bit until she's stable enough in her life to be in a relationship, which again, I understood. Which brings us to present circumstances.
We've talked here and there about our feelings towards the situation since then. We're both afraid of loosing each other, we both don't know how to act, she feels like she needs to do this to save the relationship, and I can't stand to be in limbo. I honestly don't know what to do, because deep down in side I feel like when someone says "I'm not ready for a relationship", most of the time it's because they're not really feeling you anymore, and their about 3 months away from sealing the deal with someone else. I don't really think it's the case here, but I feel that panic that comes with thoughts like that. I feel like I'm walking on egg shells here, not knowing where the fine line is between giving her too much space so that she looses interest or something, or giving her too much attention so that she may realize she values my friendship more than anything, which I've stated that I won't settle for. Maybe I'm over thinking it? But it feels like as days go by, we talk less than what we used to on a daily basis.