My boyfriend(29) & I(26) have been dating for 7 years, living together for 3. It was basically love at first site and the first few years of our relationship were great, they still are but there have been A LOT of bumps in the last 2(years)or so. Our communication has dwindled so much and I don't know what to do. He has a 7 year old son but doesn't have custody of him, the maternal grandmother does. He still gets to see him a few days a week but I don't spend much time with him because it's just awkward for me(he has to go to his parent's house to see his son). He wants me to spend more time with his son which I get, but it's still awkward.
Another problem is that we haven't had sex in a couple of months but it's me, not him. My sex drive is nowhere to be found. I don't know if it's my birth control or what but it's come to a point where I don't even have an urge to touch myself let alone let someone else, and I used to love sex.
In March of last year, I caught him talking to an ex and we fought but got over it. I basically gave him a "pass" because he promised not to do it again.
A few months ago(January)I caught him trying to flirt with a co-worker(we'll call her A) via email. He was asking another female co-worker(we'll call her B) for advice(via facebook) on getting through to her but she knew he was in a relationship(and still tried to help, ugh). They(my bf & B) both have a child from a past relationship so I think that they sort of "bonded" over that. He talked to her(B) more than the girl he was trying to flirt with(A), mostly about innocent stuff and there was some flirting. They also talked about me, like he told her that we got in a fight over money because he sold something on craiglist and I kept the money because I was paying all the bills while he was only working part time. He didn't quite pass all of his courses in school and his job didn't expect him to need full time work again so he got laid off and started working with me. He's a salesman and gets to use an iPad which I was fooling around with the other day. His text messages from his phone are connected to it and I found a conversation between him and the co-worker(B) that was trying to help him flirt. This is the gist of it:
Him: Hey listen I know in our last convo I came on a little strong and well I wasn't quite like myself & I'm sorry...I saw that you're not my friend anymore on FB I guess I can respect that, not sure I said anything bad, hope all is well
Her: It's ok, everything is good here how are you?
Him: I'm fine, been super busy getting back into school in September and just busy with life in general...how's your daughter?
Her: That's good, so happy to know everything is great and she's good she came to work with me the other day
Then they proceeded to talk about random stuff, nothing out of the ordinary. He texted her again today because he was in the same town that the place they both worked moved out of so they were just talking about that. Later in the day he asked her if she'd want to do something within the next couple of weeks since I'm going to a concert and he won't have anything to do. He mentioned two other ex co-workers so I guess it would be sort of like a reunion for them, which I'd be fine with, but what if the other two people can't go and it ends up being just the two of them? I can't risk that and the fact that he's not going to tell me he's doing this is what makes is worse. If he wants to go out with ex co-workers, go ahead but don't do it behind my back. He texted me today and asked for the specific date of the concert, like really? I don't know if I'm twisting this out of proportion but I don't want to miss the concert and I don't know how to confront him about it. I feel like I'm at my wit's end with everything and I don't know where to go from here. Any advice is appreciated.