In love with a co-worker

[angel_of_death]

I have known a girl for close to 2 years. We are co-workers. We have become close as friends, expressed genuine appreciation for each-other and it just seems, at least to me that our relationship is growing and so is our trust for one another. She is aware that I have feelings for her, I am not certain to what extent from her view, but from mine they are very strong. I think I'm in love with her.

She is however already in a relationship of 3 years. He recently sold his condo and moved in with her.

Here are some random facts.

- I am 31. She is 25. Her boyfriend is 39.
- They came close to breaking up at least once, maybe twice in the last 2 years.
- She recently told me she wasn't happy in her relationship because he wasn't giving her any attention (too busy with work and business), he doesn't contribute much in keeping the place clean. She also mentioned it had been 2 1/2 months they didn't have sex.
- She confronted him for most of the things mentioned above, to which he promised to change.
- She has mentioned in the past that he's not very sexual, and being a young attractive 25 year old, she wants to be desired.
- She has expressed how loyal he is to her and how much she trusts him.
- She has expressed the desire at some point in the past of having a child with her boyfriend.
- She has never cheated on him, she is convinced that he hasn't either.
- We do things outside of work on occasions, go for a drink, restaurant, amusement park etc...It doesn't seem to bother her boyfriend, but I can't know for sure what he really thinks.
- Recently she is showing more desire to do things together outside of work (going for a jog around the lake, playing tennis, swim in her backyard pool)...these things we haven't done yet, but she suggested we should do as the weather is getting nicer.
- We both work part time hours on the same shift, 8am to 1pm...which gives us time to do things after work while her boyfriend is still busy.

I care for her. But whenever she complains about something wrong in her relationship deep down inside me there is a sentiment of joy.
I don't feel jealous about her boyfriend, it's not a sentiment that resides in me. I actually like him and think's he's a great guy.
I have no idea what the future holds, if they will break up, end up married, break up in 5 more years....I have no clue.

I have dated a few girls over the last 2 years, and a few short relationships that I broke off because I would lose interest. It seems that I want them to make me feel exactly like she does, and they can't even come close.

I think about her too much (she occupies my mind a lot) something I'm trying to work on, as I am aware it is un-healthy. When I do think about her, my thought are positive however, I don't resent the situation or feel sorry for myself. I have a good state of mind. I hope it remains the same.

Sorry for the long post. I could use any type of advice or thoughts.

[basilandthyme]

As long as you're content to sit on the sidelines and not expect anything to come from this, I don't see the harm in it. Just make sure you don't miss out on any good opportunities which come along.