Originally Posted by
TheEvilJester
You did everything you could/should. You were into the relationship at a time when it should be new and exciting. Then, she didn't seem to quite have the same level of commitment/availability, so you backed off a little wanting to give her space but hoping you two could still be together and eventually become more serious. It sounds to me like you did everything right, but nothing was good enough for her. Like I said before, if maybe she was just not into you I could understand that. Sometimes a person can be great, it isn't that there is necessarily anything wrong with them, but they just aren't the right match for you. But, even if that is the case, she gave you no real indication of this, but instead just kept stringing you along thinking you were building to something.
At least she eventually did the right thing by cutting you loose if she couldn't/wouldn't take you seriously, but it sounds like she can't even stick to that without resorting to childish games now.
Bottom line, if she's not ready to settle down, if she can't appreciate a good guy when she has one, then that is her loss. I wouldn't be surprised if you are right, and down the road she realizes what she had in you and finally then appreciates you for the good guy you are. Still, in my personal opinion, if/when she does, it should be too late. Why bother to give her another chance when she cast you aside so easily before? But, again, cross that bridge if/when you come to it. If she does come crawling back, actually seems sincere, and you truly think it could work, then you do what makes you happy.
I will say this, as much as it sucks when you make the mistake of directing the attention to the wrong person.... It actually IS a good thing that you found it kind of hard to let her go. It shows that you truly do want that connection with somebody. You made the mistake of trying to make it with the wrong person, but it is a good thing that you still want to make it with somebody. Trust me, I know the alternative and it sucks. I've shut down before because I've become convinced there is nobody, and it really sucks, frankly. So, it is good that you still want to share those feelings with somebody. You just have to find somebody who will appreciate it.
I feel you, my friend. I'm a romantic myself. The curse of being a romantic is we often fall way too hard and often wind up just getting hurt. But, the wonderful thing about being a romantic is when we finally do find the right person. I may not think that will ever actually happen for me, but I won't give up trying anyway. You should do the same. She's out there somewhere looking for you. Good luck.