My girlfriend and I recently broke up after 11 months of dating. I am 27 she is 19. In the beginning she seemed extremely mature for her age as I met her through school friends. She didn't have many friends her own age, always older.
Things were going great until one day I planned to visit her and she cancelled because her grandma was sick in the hospital. That was fine.. I told her when you are done give me a call I will pick you up and we can go for dinner to cheer you up. She called me later on to say she was out with "family friends" but wouldn't say who which was very strange as she would always tell me who without me asking. I told her I did not appreciate being left in the dark all day when we had plans, she could have at least called. We disputed it for a few minutes but ended on a good note and she said she would call the next day.
The next evening rolls around and no call, nor did she answer mine. I called her friend to ask if she made it home okay and her friend didn't know and called her but again no answer. The next day my gf is screaming at me for calling her friend asking if she was okay. She ignored me for 3 days until finally she messaged me to say she wanted to cancel the vacation we had booked. I told her to call me that evening so we could talk. She called me from a restaurant saying she was out with her friend Sarah, she was very quick worded and sounded impatient before abruptly ending the call stating she would call in 30 minutes.. she never did. The next morning I called and yet again I got her voice mail. On the spot I broke it off.
She texts me 6 hours later saying "you broke my heart, how could you do this." So I told her, if you truly care then talk to me, lets go for dinner and work things out... she then continued to ignore me. The next day again, "I still can't believe this, I'm so sad..." So again I said lets work it out.. she continued to ignore me. 2 days later I show up at her house to drop off her stuff and she screams at me for bringing her stuff back. She rips up the cards and letters I gave her and put them in a bag with all of my stuff. I didn't talk to her again. A week later she is posting pictures on facebook with the contractor that had been doing work to her parents place.
So thoughts and opinions, I know she was young and everyone here warned me it would not work out.. I figured since we were so close it may.. and literally until that last week we were fine (in my mind). We never fought, had issues etc. Did she get bored of me? Is she being young and stupid? Too immature for a serious relationship? Did I jump the gun? Was she planning on cheating? I'm still trying to piece together what, if anything, that I could have done differently.
Thanks for reading.