I don't even know if I'm wrong or right. I know I'm protective because I am afraid that many guys would be interested in the person that I am with.
I was upset because my girlfriend wants to celebrate her birthday with a guy who she previously doesn't respond much to his advances. Now she hates me somehow because she cant go out with "a friend" to celebrate her birthday. We were suppose to celebrate together her birthday too and since I had made plans to celebrate her birthday with her, now she says that she does not want to celebrate with anyone.
It all started, the guy who happens to be her university senior "suddenly" gets the her personal number and begin texting her frequently. Start asking if she would wanna go out for movie together, giving so call extra cupcakes which she said he baked, and want to celebrate her birthday. When I became upset knowing that the guys has different intention (obviously!) ,for the girl, her excuse is "It's normal for guy to like a girl, and I cant stop them" or "I cant tell him that I'm seeing someone because so and so never confess to me yet". Nothing wrong to celebrate birthday but he just know her! And vice versa, she just met him and exchange messages via phone. Am I wrong to feel defensive and protective knowing that the guy might have more then just intention to be "a friend". If the girl respect the relationship, she would know how to turn down or instead of showing being "interested" or allowing advances. Speaking of oppurtunity, if guy ask girl out, she could have say that she is going out with her boyfriend. That will somehow hint him that she is taken. If all he wants is to be friends, he would already know his limits and still be friends. Texting frequently with each other was already a sign that things were getting "closer". The guy doesnt know that she seeing someone.
I understand the need to have friends, I have friends who are the opposite gender too but I know whatever I do, I need to think of her in terms of respect for our relationship. I guess I have my bad side but I just hope she sees and understand how I think. Please give me advice...