I've been with my boyfriend for 9 months, I like him a lot and we've had a lot of fun and magical moments. But he is so insecure, and we have a lot of problems because of that. It all started when we were like 3 months together and he found some texts in my phone with a guy that used to be my teacher, he was asking me questions of my life and we were having a nice conversation, he asked me if I had a boyfriend and I avoided the question, I dont know why I did it, it was wrong and Im sorry, I wasn't going to cheat on my boyfriend or anything like that. Since that moment my boyfriend is super jealous, and we've had a lot of problems.
He says that he can't forget what I did, plus he says that the first months together I was really cold and that he tried to be very nice and romantic and that I kept being indifferent and cold, and now he can't be the same. I think that's really stupid because I'm not a social person and yes, the first months together it was difficult for me to express my feelings and to be totally myself but now, months after that I can be myself and I can be lovely and romantic because now I'm in love with him.
The main problem is that he breaks up with me a lot, he has broken up with me more than 15 times in 9 months, then we always talk and say that we love each other and that we can deal with our problems and be together because we are strong. We can be all good and have a really magical day and the next day he can wake up depressed and say that he can't forget everything that happened and that we shoud break up. When he acts like this I immediatly ask him not to leave and remind him all the good moments and how much I love him. I can't act different, it kills me. I've decided lots of times to accept his decision and finally break up but I can't.
He says that when he breaks up with me I treat him nicer and more romantic, but that he obviously doesn't like to do it and that he doesn't want to hurt me anymore.
This is really hurting me, he says that he loves me and acts really nice and we have lots of nice days and then we suddenly have a fight and break up, and every time I feel really really bad.
I don't want to break up with him, I want to work our problems out, I feel guilty for the conversation with my teacher and for all my cold attitude the first months. We talked and say we will share some ideas on how to solve our problems and rekindle the flame in our relationship cause we are so tired.
What can I do?