I was led on hard, help

[Blaza]

Well, she led me on. (first time told me that she likes me and wants to be with me but doesn't want anything with anyone, yet continued to **** another guy and almost got into a relationship with him) I was her very good friend, and she basically told me that i am the best guy she has ever met. We did ended up together a few times, and she did want a relationship with me in the beginning, but i didn't want it then.

After talking for a long time, and where in the beginning she was in love with me, she was always the one to initiate contact, but was leading me on twice, after i forgave her the first time, she did it again. (yes, i know, don't say anything about that i am an idiot) and is currently getting into a relationship with a guy. She always rejected meetups, even though we were **** buddies. In the last few weeks she told me: I love you, you are the best thing that happened to me, i am falling back in love with you, i would kill myself if you weren't here. So she lied about all that and told me that she was mistaken about falling in love and that she is really sorry. (I found out about that from her best friend, not her, she would have kept that a secret and never tell me, and probably continue to give me false hope.)

I told her that from now on we will not talk anymore, and if she ever wants something more with me to call me, and that i don't want to be her friend. So currently i am ignoring her. We go to college together and i am always ignoring her even there, like she doesn't exist. 2 days passed and today she sent me a message saying: I miss you , to which i responded: I am doing this for myself, you have played with me for far too long and ended the conversation there.

How should i go on about her from now on? I know she cares about me as a person (i even found out from her best friend that she really cried that day), and that it is possible for her to fall back in love with me, but she didn't give me any chance. I am thinking of ignoring her, is that a good decision?

[TheEvilJester]

First off, NO you are not an idiot for giving her a second chance. Frankly, I'd have personally suggested you don't since I am not terribly forgiving of people who play BS games with people like that. So, when she screwed with your heart once, I would have personally suggested she probably would again if you gave her the chance.

.... But you don't know that. So, you weren't wrong to give her one more chance. The thing is.... she blew that one as well. So, why give her a third? Personally, I think you are doing exactly the right thing now, which is to consider you two over and to ignore her. You shouldn't have to basically CONVINCE somebody to love you. She had her chance. Hell, she had two. Why would you ever accept her back again?

In time, you should move on, of course. Let go of the hurt feelings and allow yourself to be open to love again. However, sometimes you can move on without that having to mean you allow the person back into your life. I think this may be one of those times. You are likely better off without her drama in your life.

Good luck to you. I hope some day very soon you find the gal who will show you the way you truly deserve to be loved..... and make you wonder why you ever put up with this gal for even a second.