Hi all.. I find myself in a sticky situation. 9 months ago, i met this girl online, and we decided to meet. One thing led to another, and within a month i asked her how she'd feel about dating me exclusively. She agreed, so as of January this year, we started dating. Another 'rule' we both agreed upon was that we wouldn't see other people, as, in her words, 'one dick is enough'. She did, however, say it was OK for me to date another girl (just one), but ONLY if i first told her about it. A '3some' with another guy, however, was totally against her moral fiber.
To this day, i haven't taken an opportunity as such.
I would only generally see her every 2nd weekend, as she told me that she was busy looking after her mother mostly full-time, who'd recently been diagnosed with Cancer. Also, there were 2 younger siblings she needed to help out while her mother was ill.
She missed my son's birthday, and, on my birthday (within a couple of months of us dating), she flared up accusing me of having an affair, based on some old (pre our relationship) social media conversations she found. She made my life a living hell that day, but for absolutely NO substantial reason.
A few days later, she moved in with me.
Consequently, just after my birthday, i found some startling evidence on her phone, that she had been having an affair, not only with one person, but several. Adding to this, on my son's birthday, she had a 3some unbeknownst to me, with some guy she'd met on Wechat.
That guy even told her to take a morning after pill, and she agreed without any hesitation, although, again, against her moral fiber. I know this, because a month earlier i suggested we could take one in future, she scolded me, and told me HOW COULD YOU BELIEVE TO JUST END AN INNOCENT LIFE JUST LIKE THAT COULD POSSIBLY BE A CONSIDERATION, and that it was WRONG.
WHen confronted with this evidence, she lied and lied and lied, and claimed it was all FICTITIOUS. I had to threaten her with a restraining order, before she finally told me 30% of the truth.
Turns out she didn't even bother visiting her mother, she was gallivanting around our area, spending nights with guys from social media platforms.
I told her that was IT. Told her i wanted to end the relationship, and that she had to LEAVE FOREVER. SHe declined, and told me that i'd promised her accommodation. She tried to stab herself with a kitchen knife, and screamed the place down. Since then, this, in summary, is what has happaned:
i allowed her to stay, and tried to forgive her
she agreed that i could monitor her online activity, as she doesn't trust herself
she has slept with 2 guys, latest being last week, for money (and lied and lied about it of course)
she has handed her numbers out to 3 guys she was interested in, and, again, lied about it
she has jumped out of my moving car when i told her that i'd had enough of her lying, and she ended up in hospital.
she has made promise after promise that she wouldn't lie again, but continues to lie.
Now that she is stable, and she is working, she seems less bothered when i threaten to end the relationship.
Now, this is where the problem really starts. Before, i was totally OK with ending it, and justified ending it completely. NOW, i can't operate properly without her in my life. She is caring, loving, grateful, beautiful, amazing lover etc.. , but she is a LIAR of the greatest kind, and shows zero remorse for cheating, or even having sex for money (she calls it 'business') with a calm non regretting attitude. Of course, she lied when confronted, told me that it'd mean that she'd 'lose her dignity FOREVER if she actually did that deed, but, when she realized she may lose her work because of it, she finally told the truth.
Is she a prostitute? or a nymphomaniac perhaps? Our sex is the greatest ever, she orgasms virtually every time after long and enduring sessions. I'm adding this because even though i am totally satisfying her sexually, she still has external desires that she wishes to fulfill without my knowledge.
I have never cheated on her even once, i am always good to her, and since the start i have only loved her nothing more nothing less.
Can someone advise me what i must do cos right now im dying inside.
PS: i would also like to add that this girl is cute, angelic looking. Nobody could/would ever believe this when looking or conversing with her. SHe is the epitome of innocence!