Need some advice on a theory!

[XPixiedustX]

hmm, ok i'll try that. I'll pretend to be into someone else, but i'll keep complimenting and being warm to her and stuff like that.

goodluck!..and remember..BE SUBTLE...seriously, cuz like you don't want her to think that ur into sumone but even then if she wanted she could have you back...cuz then it'll really suc!

[Junket]

Be careful of becoming too in control of your emotions.

Because at that point you become emotionless.

[Airborne]

Aye im thinking of taking an approach of being somewhat cocky and funny, let her know she doesn't impress me much anymore, but drop subtle hints as to what I really think, like with eye contact or something. Might try giving a little at a time, to try and leave her wanting more.

[Tone]

Keep us updated - I'm interested to see how this plays out.

[Airborne]

Will do dude Hope this works out, but hey if it doesn't least you folks may learn something.

[Ellynn]

Be cool with her.....and then move on. I know its hard but the fact that she shunned you after you told her how you felt kinda indicates to me that shes over you.
But if your really hooked on winning her back......try just being friendly towards her and you can try the whole "trying to make her jealous" thing but honestly thats kinda childish. If you do try that though..or act like your into someone else.....and she has a reactino like shes upset.....then you might have a shot at getting her back. If she really acts like she could care less.....then shes moved on and its best you do too.

Keep your options open.......you may find something else better along the way.....

[Airborne]

[QUOTE=Ellynn] Be cool with her.....and then move on. I know its hard but the fact that she shunned you after you told her how you felt kinda indicates to me that shes over you.
But if your really hooked on winning her back......try just being friendly towards her and you can try the whole "trying to make her jealous" thing but honestly thats kinda childish. [QUOTE]

I guess your right but another mistake I made was that when I was going out with her I didn't really act like me, I put on something like a facade which I thought she would like, in a nutshell I wasn't acting like the guy she wanted to go out with in the first place. After she broke up with me, I still wasn't the same guy, so it was little wonder she shunned me.

[Ellynn]

Yeah when things are new.....thats pretty easy to do. It takes time to really get to know the person...and see how they truly are. I dated a guy who acted totally different when I first started dating him. Then as time went on I got to see how he really was. Lets just say that if I knew how he really was I wouldn't have dated him to begin with.

But you said you did the opposite. Let her believe you were completely different then what you really were. Its important to be able to be yourself and not feel bad about being yourself when your in a relationship. The truth of who you really are is bound to come out anyways....so why try to act like someone you aren't. I doubt though you can change her mind anymore. I think your chance has come and gone....to show the real you. But then again that doesn't mean there is NEVER gonna be a chance. But I suggest you keep your options open when it comes to dating... And if things don't work out w/ her.....at least you can say you learned something from this. You know now to just be yourself ....... Either the women will like you or they won't. But you have to be true to yourself....

[Airborne]

But you said you did the opposite. Let her believe you were completely different then what you really were. Its important to be able to be yourself and not feel bad about being yourself when your in a relationship. The truth of who you really are is bound to come out anyways....so why try to act like someone you aren't. I doubt though you can change her mind anymore. I think your chance has come and gone....to show the real you.

She has seen the real me, thats the person she originally wanted to go out with, although a couple of weeks into our relationship I changed somewhat to something which I thought would please her. So basically I changed from someone she wanted to go out with (the real me) into someone she obviously didn't (the me trying to please her.) And I feel perfectly comfortable just being me, so I was pretty stupid to change into someone she really didn't end up wanting.

The problem wasn't in the real me, but more in the person I changed into I think. We are still friends though, so I spose I stand a chance in the future but I think I may just try for someone else in the mean time, and if we get back together at some stage then so be it. But if it's not meant to be, then it clearly isn't meant to be.

[clynn]

sounds like a lot of trouble to me.

[Ellynn]

Point is.....you weren't yourself.. She lost interest.....and now its time to move on. If she wants to be w/ u again.......let her come to you....

[Airborne]

Update: When I told her I was interested in someone else she acted with intense interest when I said I was gonna be keeping it a secret, when I did tell her she said she didn't really mind, and it didn't really matter to her.

[Ellynn]

Sounds like she moved on. Sorry to hear that. Well I always say you learn something from every relationship.....

[Ekips]

Ouchee, well, never try to win your ex back, I highly doubt they'll be a situation where they break up with you because they want to protect you (like the movie Roxxane). Even you said the reason and it wasn't that. Point is, if you keep trying, you'll lose a friend. It's harsh, but you know it's true. She said just friends, and she means just that.

[Airborne]

Aye, i've made the decision to give up on it and stay friends, little point in fighting a losing battle.