How Long Did You Stay With Your First Sex Partner?

[clynn]

5 years. ............

[Pears]

One year and 7 months.

Same for me.

[gHEXjt]

Almost 4 years, hs sweethearts. Broke up about 8 months ago.

[gingerbabe86]

it's been a year and a half.. and we're still together

[dono]

3 years. She was my highschool sweetheart. Then she decided that she needed to live her life, and pretty much trashed me out of the blue one day


Eh, I'm better off without her anyway, It made me realize what I really want in someone.

[Peggy Sue]

9 years and counting

[carpflounder]

Four Hours; she was visiting me and I took her home. And we have hooked up 2 times in the 4 years since.

[gingersnaps]

4 years, he was a virgin too, we were madly in love, and we later got engaged.

It did not work out. It is still a very sweet memory.

[daletom]

9 years and counting

Hi there Peggy Sue -

If your profile info is accurate, I'd say you have some interesting and worthwhile things to say about the "right" age, and the reasons, for starting to have sex. (If it's too personal for the open forum, you may send a private message.)

[bluesummer]

Four years - high school sweetheart. Should've left him about three years earlier than that. Oh well.

[daletom]

The person who took your virginity. Popped your cherry. Deflowered you. Milked the bull. Made you a man/woman. Whatever you call it: How long DID you stay together?

I'm a little surprised, but not disappointed by the poll responses. (I wonder if maybe I should have emphasized "stayed together AFTER the event"?)

As I recall other places where this question is considered the majority are either "short flings" (one-night stand, weekend fling, spring break party-for-a-week, etc) or "short-term relationships" (summer romance, SO for a semester, etc). Some explain it by saying that people now tend to think of sex as a skill to be learned, rather than a gift to be given. So they look for somebody familiar and close, but not TOO close, to gain a little experience with before moving on to a long-term partner. Others think that young people try to use sex as a way to salvage a relationship that's naturally winding down. Sort of, "If I just let him/her sleep with me, it'll rekindle what we used to have." I don't recall anyone telling me this actually worked - even if it was a long-term attachment, a LOT of couples seem to break up within a month or so of starting to have sex with each other.

Any other thoughts?