Hello folks,
I'm new here, so please be gentle.
I have a problem with my girlfriend, which is one-way for the moment. She knows nothing.
Background:
there was a person in her life (not a boyfriend), with whom she was connected but she had a fight. Let's say a terrible fight and that person did ALOT of damage to my gf, so back then I became involved (I'm sorry to be rude but in matters like this my gf doesn't have a backbone so I tried to advise her) and thus very angry at that person. My gf knows that.
Lately I got a strange feeling that something is not like it should be. I don't know...I have a nose for such things.
I know her e-mail password but I swore to myself that I wouldn't read her e-mails even if it killed me but that feeling gave me a real hard time, so I gave in to it and openned her account. To my surprise I discovered that she started emailing that person and chitchatting. OK...I keep my temper at a normal level and I asked her (not dirrectly) if she has any contact with that person and she swore to me that she didn't...you can imagine the how I felt
Anyway, I never told her that I read her email, cuz I won't read them again (one more thing...I didn't actually read the emails, I just made a quick view of the names of the folks she was writing to...).
I guess the problem lies in me, cuz I'm a guy with a quick temper. Don't get me wrong, I don't yell and I absolutely DON'T hit, I just become angry and usually I state my opinions loudly. That person did really outrageous things and I can't stand the idea of my gf mailing with that person. I know, you'll probably say it's none of my busines and you'd be right in most cases, but this isn't the case, cuz I was a part of the fights.
So, my question is; should this worry me? I mean, I know she's faithful and she loves me...etc...and I know that she's hiding this because she's probably afraid of my reaction. So please comment this. And don't start commenting the fact I opened her email, cuz my concience is doing that job perfectly already. I didn't come here to start a debate about right and wrong, I just want an honest opinion.
And one more thing...how can I make her "confess" without telling her about the emails?
I can't even begin to explain how I felt when I found out this. I was furious and heart broken at the same time...and later when she said that she has no contacts with that person really devastated me. Where's her conscience?
P