Originally Posted by
Binxy
I gave a short recount of my situation when I signed up. I had posted something here, but for some reason it didn't post, so I'll try to recap what I had said.
First of all, if a girl wants some time away, more than likely, not always but most of the time she's going towards ending the relationship for good. Now this is where the tricky part comes in. If she cares for you as a friend, she'll still want to see you. This can be very painful, and really, painful can't even describe what you'll end up feeling if you continue to see her "as friends" when you love her. You won't be able to let your heart heal properly from the break up because the old wounds will keep opening each time you see her, and you'll get to a point that you might start lying to yourself thinking she has to still love you, why else would she want to see you. Don't fall in that trap. There is a difference of friends and lovers. If someone isn't in Love, they know it, just like the person who's in Love knows that. Let this one go. Another girl will come alone who'll love.
At this point you need to take a deep breath in, let it out, take it in again, if you feel like crying over her then do it. But after all of that, let her go. You'll find yourself in a full battle with your heart and mind over this, and you have to pull some strength from I don't know where so you do the right thing. 6 years I was with my ex, and held onto him since he wanted to be friends from January until just two weeks ago. It ripped me apart, it changed me as a person, and I don't ever want to be that person again for anyone. There are worse things in life than losing love by not having the person we're in love with no longer love us and tell us that....many times. Just remember that.
So, what you do after you have a good cry and your ready to try to move on is you play lots of games on the computer, xbox, anything like that, or you go see lots of movies with friends who you like to laugh a lot with. Surround yourself with friends who love and enjoy life and who love to laugh. Go find a pumpkin patch, do something fun and unique and if she starts to creep into your thoughts, just flat out scream to yourself in your thoughts "NOOOOO" and don't let her in there. If you have trouble sleeping at night, get a good book to read (no love stories, nothing sad), and get so engrossed in the book you won't even think about her. Start with little things like that, and it'll get a little easier every day.
I hope I helped at least just a little, or helped someone a little.
Live and Love Life to the Fullest!
Smile, Laugh, Feel joy again.
I'll be thinking about you,
Binxy
p.s. Another Golden Rule.....do NOT listen to love songs...listen to fun upbeat songs, songs that make you feel good. Don't listen to any songs that make you feel a strong tie to her. Listen to some of the 80's songs when punk rock was in.....who can tell what they're singing about, but we sure had fun listening and dancing to those years ago LOL.
Good Luck, and I'll be thinking about you!