First Date Jitters? Be Irresistible

[vashti]

Derm needs housebreaking. Petersone is probably a 12 year old kid out of school for the day.

[derm]

I'm a semi-retired pimp and didn't feel it necessary to mention it to ye people

[vashti]

Semi-retired? At what age does a pimp reach actual retirement?

[derm]

It's optional but at 40 you can no longer practice

I'm going in for early retirement and taking the package

[Gigabitch]

It's optional but at 40 you can no longer practice

I'm going in for early retirement and taking the package

Do I dare inquire?

[derm]

Do I dare inquire?

......No!

[beebee]

I agree that a scent is a nice touch, it can make me want to be closer! ...spot on Hitch

[Gribble]

Out of curiosity, what do you ladies think of body wash? I never wear cologne, but I am in the habit of taking long showers and lathering up before the big date. It gives me a faint scent I think... I'm not very receptive to it. Gotta press my nose right up to my skin before I can smell anything.

[Gribble]

Flowery is for girls! It smells like guy-stuff. Hrm. You know, like men's deodorant or aftershave, only not. I think it's called After Hours, which makes me think of dried puke and stale cigarettes.

[Gigabitch]

Nice one, Gribble. Cracked me up. Quite evocative. I'm trying to imagine the kind of woman who would be turned on by such a thing. Yipe.

[CAM]

I agree: a shower, if a scent go for something fresh smelling (less intrusive)...a lime for instance. Nice clothes, not overstated because you aren't doing a fashion show for her. She's supposed to be The Item at the table, not you. You are there to show her off, to say "I'm proud to be with her."

And, if you are going to take her out, be sure to have the cash. Don't take her to some expensive place IF you cannot afford it.

Last date for me was $250, although my most expensive date involved flying somewhere else for dinner and everything was a thousand dollar evening. I was prepared to pay. When a guy takes it in stride and pays without looking all pale, that shows confidence. So, take her to place where you can afford to do it right and where you don't have to hope that she doesn't order dessert (great dinner disaster scene: Fast Times at Ridgmont High).

And, ultimately...being prepared to pay means that you don't have your whole hopes riding on Getting It. You are taking her out and you should be in the mood which blends "You make me proud to be with you" with the ever-so-slight (very very subtle) sense that she might get that this is your venue and you are in your element--the dinner, the scene, the whole thing.

[CAM]

And brush your tongue...

[CAM]

If there is some relatively obscure dish available at the restaurant that you know that you already totally like and have eaten, be sure ot order it (assuming that it is not loaded with onions or garlic). Odds are she hasn't had that dish before and so you can share a piece of it...sort of the modern version of being the Big Hunter (aka "Me go kill ostrich and eat it. Hmm good. Want piece of it?" It is especially good news if she tries the mystery meal and likes it and wants more it. Then, you have introduced her to a new thing and she'll likely remember you--"I remember the first time we ate ostrich together...it was our first date, remember?" Don't get carried away with the moment and start telling her about how you've had it prepared in the past...that'll bore the shit out of her and you lose whatever value you created.